7 “Anxiety Killer” Steps

Last week I had a difficult week in a way I hadn’t experienced before.
I was having a combination of physical exhaustion and difficulty to stay present in my life and my body. This created a series of events that I judged as negative and that created “a bit” of a downward spiral.

You know how big I am about co-creation, positive thinking and feeling, and how I strive to be in integrity by walking my own talk. As I realized I was “freaking out” was going into negative thinking I said to myself “enough, I know what to do about this”.

The process I went through has 7 basic steps that I am sharing with you so you can use them when you may need them. We are all human and we all may have moments when things seem less than rosy, don’t we?

Step #1 is to NOTICE what is going on.
​You DO know when you are heading into negativity, you may feel some anxiety, and your thoughts take you down into more of the same.  The simple act of “noticing” the thought shifts you immediately from “being in the situation” to “observing the situation” which leads to the next step.  And, guess what? You may journal about what comes up for you to gain further clarity.

Step #2 is to RECOGNIZE the FEELINGS
Now that you are aware of what is going on ask yourself “how am I feeling”? The answer is crucial for you because you will become VERY aware that you are not feeling particularly good. For me, the thoughts were of this type “I am anxious because I SHOULD be doing xyz and I am physically tired and can’t allow myself to rest” (have you ever felt this way! LOL).

Step #3: FORGIVE yourself for having these thoughts 
Forgive yourself for not being “perfect”, for being human, for being out of alignment. It happens to the best of us! Ask yourself “what is positive about this situation?”, “what can I learn from what has just happened or is happening”?

Step #5 CLEAR YOURSELF and CLEAR your SPACE​​
Use​ any techniques you know to clear your subtle bodies and help yourself by also clearing the space where you live. Do some smudging, light some incense and candles, or do it your own way. This will support your ability to pivot and take the following steps.

Step #5: OPPORTUNITY
What you did in the prior steps was to “press the PAUSE button” and by doing so you created space to CHOOSE what you want to create. Now you can ask yourself “how can I do this differently”, “Is my thought real?”, “is this true”?  You will realize for sure how there is a better course of action and how your “internal dialogue” was not necessarily true or that you could adjust it and choose differently.

Step #6 CLEAR YOURSELF and CLEAR your SPACE​​
Use​ any techniques you know to clear your subtle bodies and help yourself by also clearing the space where you live. Do some smudging, light some incense and candles, or do it your own way. This will support your ability to pivot and take the following steps.

Step #7 DIVINE GUIDANCE
Always tap into your higher self or Divine Guidance. Ask to be supported and shown what is best for you and to fully integrate the learning. Meditate and/or journal about this too.

Step #6 GRATITUDE
Always, always, always, remember to be grateful for every opportunity we have to grow, learn, expand and live a better happier more fulfilled life.

With love AND GRATITUDE,

 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi

Spiritual Life Coach

It Only Takes 3 Minutes

Lately, I have been rejoicing in the flow of manifestation. Yes. I said manifestation. I have known the term and I have been studying and aligning with the Law of Attraction for many years now. I have had the joy of seeing it at work in my life in many ways, and more and more these days, in absolutely clear and concrete ways.

In 2007 a friend of mine invited me to watch this “new awesome movie that just came out” called “The Secret”.  Yes, you ready correctly!!! It was 2007. Only 12 years ago. At the time the idea that we create our reality seemed a radical and new idea. Nowadays we’ve heard and read about it and you may come across it here and there continuously.

But there is a caveat to it.

You have probably heard the most well-known piece about the “Law of Attraction”: what you think, speak and act, you create and therefore it is important to watch your thoughts, words and deeds. 

However, in the above statement there is one missing link. The Universe, Creation, Source, responds to feelings and emotions, therefore, when you just think something it is not enough to manifest it. It takes FEELINGS to manifest something. It takes vibrating to the emotion of already having the one thing you desire. 

And how do you do that you may ask?

Doing exactly that. You’ve got to feel and emote. 

It takes just 3 minutes a day.

In the morning, when you are fresh right after your meditation, or your ritual, or your walk, or your yoga, or your… whatever you do to feel good, put your timer to 3 minutes, close your eyes, and visualize the very thing you desire to manifest. Visualize it and emote it. Observe yourself doing it, feel the smile come on your lips, allow the laughter to come out. 

This is powerful stuff. You may think 3 minutes is too little? Do it and you will learn that in our inner “quantum” time, 3 minutes is a lot! There is so much you can visualize and feel and emote in 3 minutes.

Do it consistently, every single dayand don’t give up until you are living the very thing you are visualizing. Trust me. It works.

Love and light,

 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi

Life Coach & Healer

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Testimonial by Claudia Nunia

In just 6 sessions with Valerie I managed to “heal” from trauma of abuse that had happened in my childhood. I attended one of Valerie’s workshop and it was during a healing exercise that I was able to “see” it clearly for the first time.

Valerie used different techniques such as energy healing, Akashic record reading and coaching. At first she did healing sessions to clear and open the flow of energy in my subtle bodies and chakras and she predicted with details a situation that arose during a recent trip I took to Egipt. However, the healing didn’t end when we finished our sessions, it continued to work within me for months.

As a result of working with Valerie I was able to resolve conflicts and close relationships that were unhealthy for me including leaving a job where I was unhappy. I did not hesitate, I was absolutely certain and with renewed energy and clarity I threw myself into the unknown with the knowledge that everything is Perfect and that I am Assisted by the Universe at all times.

Working with Valerie was a deep transformative experience that helped me in my continued unfolding and spiritual path.

Thank you Valerie for your clear, accurate and loving assistance that came with perfect timing during this intense transformation phase of my life.

Claudia Nunia

Chemical Engineer/Business Advisor & Astrologer, Buenos Aires, Argetina

Is this you?

Have you noticed you have a tendency to put people on a pedestal?
Or have you ever done it? Maybe once? Maybe more than once?

For many years of my life I, put people on a pedestal. Not everyone of course. But I became aware of my tendency to “figuratively hold” bosses, teachers, mentors, and even men I liked, above me. I use the term pedestal, because, in my mind, these people were great, so much more than methey knew more than me, they were more perfect than me, they had more experience than me, they were so handsome, and so much more.

Since I thought so highly of them I strived to become more like then, and since I am such a good student (seriously!) I invariably would reach a point when in my own evolution I would notice that they would unbeknownst to them… “let me down”. 

Yes, they would suddenly come crashing down the pedestal and I would get all ruffled up and mad inside. I would have the most difficult conversations inside my mind until one after another I realized that:

a)    they never asked to be placed on a pedestal
b)   they didn’t think they were better, more intelligent, more of anything (for the most part!)
c)    this was my own doing and therefore my own “un-doing”

I have learned on my own skin the importance of holding myself up no matter who sits by my side or stands in front of me. I am worthy. Period. As are you.

That is why in the work I do I ensure you know that you and only you are your own teacher. I may be a facilitator, a guide, the one that opens some crucial doors for you but you and only you can do the work. I can help you shine the light on those parts of you in the shadow, we all have our shadow side.

I have learned that in order to continue with the unfolding of my life, living on purpose, I need someone ahead of me in my path, to help me see my blind spots… but here is the key point. Ahead of me doesn’t mean better than me, it only means that they are a few steps ahead in the same way I am a few steps ahead of the women I work with.

The shamans, teachers and coaches I have work with can help me see the way in which I get in my own way, they can help me identify the “obstacles” so to speak, but only I can remove them, only I have the key to the healing inside, the same way in which I can help you but YOU and only YOU can remove them … if you so desire. 

Love and light,

 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Life Coach & Healer

 

“Darling, self-discovery isn’t always about the most convenient ways…”