What exactly is a life purpose 🔥🔥🔥

What exactly is a life purpose?

So many times we use this term, we speak of finding it but, are we clear of what it would feel like and be like when we do?

There is a Harvard study published in May 2020 that says that we NEED a higher purpose in life to feel our lives have meaning AND that if you believe your life has meaning, it could potentially be longer.

There are actually countless clinical studies that show that having a “greater purpose” dramatically increases the length and quality of your life. Yet, it is alarming how many people at this time report that they don’t know what theirs is.

It does not matter how smart, conscious, creative, talented, and tuned in you are, if you are not clear about what you are meant to be doing now and why you are here on this planet at this time, you will be feeling off-kilter and you will go about life feeling like something is missing.

Life purpose is defined differently by different people, however, as a spiritual teacher, coach, and healer, I have learned that knowing your life purpose means you have aligned your passion with your dreams and your goals.

When your passion is in line with your dreams and goals then your behaviors and your actions will naturally be aligned with your values. As a result, you will feel on-purpose AND you will feel fulfilled with an inner knowing that what you do matters… that YOU matter.

I believe that living our purpose is ultimately connecting with our higher self or inner divinity and listening to its guidance you will gain clarity on all of the above.

What I find in my work is that many people are struggling to go inside, to honor time to connect with the whispers of the divine within, and thus can’t receive the golden messages for themselves. Your inner knowing speaks in a really soft voice, therefore, we must be able to quiet our minds to listen accurately.

Not knowing what your purpose is will have you going about life sabotaging your ability to unlock your full potential and manifest what you most desire in life!

So why is it so difficult to gain clarity on OUR OWN purpose? It’s ours so we should know right? Wrong… the problem is that through our childhood experiences and trauma we’ve detached from pieces of our soul and we’ve disowned parts of ourselves. All of these aspects of our being lay in the shadow, they are our blind spots, and they hold precious information that we can’t see on our own because… they are our blind spots. By definition, we need someone else to mirror those to us.

What I know is that you are needed. I know that you are meant to be living a fulfilling joyful abundant life.  I know that if you aren’t living a life of joy and purpose and you feel stuck or simply blah, then now is the time for you to rise up and figure this out!

🔥 What is holding you back?
🔥 Why can’t you take action even though you are clear about what you want to do?
🔥 Why are you lacking motivation?
🔥 Why are you confused?
🔥 Why do you feel pulled in a million directions?

Let’s find clarity, shall we?

Love and light,

 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Spiritual Teacher & Coach

Are you giving up on love?

Have you ever wondered what the secret is to finding a quality partner and creating a sustainable, fulfilling love life? What is the secret to having healthy relationships in our lives?

I’m so excited to announce that I was just interviewed on the Midlife Love Out Loud podcast! Click here to listen

We spoke about healthy relationships:

❤️ What do they look like? 
❤️ Where do they start? 
❤️ How can you ensure you will live the best love story in your life? 
AND
❤️ How can you have a loving relationship with who you care about?


Let’s face it.  Being in the second half of life and getting “back out there” can feel daunting. 

With divorce rates skyrocketing and people feeling more dissatisfied in partnership than ever before, and being in midlife after multiple sucky relationships, one would think it isn’t possible to have a fulfilling relationship let alone find one so late in life. 

The good news is it’s more than possible and Midlife Love Out Loud: Your One Stop Love Shop, hosted by Junie Moon –the Love Coach, is a great resource for you!

The show is awesome and I’m so honored to be one of her guests! I invite you to browse throughout all the shows and listen to some them, they are fantastic, even for those of us who already have beautiful relationships, it’s never too much to be reminded of what works! 

Junie is bringing on some of the leading experts in the relationship field and offering tools that actually help you call in the partner you dream of. 

Be sure to subscribe, rate and review it too. That helps us get the word out there about this great show. 

Midlife Love Out Loud offers topics like:

●     How to have healthy communication and less drama
●     How to create bedroom bliss and get your needs met
●     How to date successfully online
●     How to find quality men that want to show up for you
●     How to experience real intimacy where you deeply connect and feel safe to be you
●     How to set healthy boundaries and not get resentful because you abandon your truth
And so much more… 

Junie Moon knows how hard it can be to find love later in life. She has walked in your shoes, and after extensive research, she now helps women find their man by teaching really easy, learnable tools that streamline the whole dating process. That’s why she is sharing the golden nuggets of dating and relationships in this new way…her podcast. 

I am so excited to share this with you. You’re going to learn a ton.  Enjoy! 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Spiritual Teacher & Guide

Unplug From Suffering

SufferING is an active choice.
We don’t say painING but we say sufferING.

Pain is the physical sensations that tells you something is happening within your body in relation to an event or situation.

Suffering is the interpretation or story that you tell yourself about the pain.

Suffering is a vibrational spectrum. You’ve got the choice to stop from suffering, you can unplug from that vibrational frequency. We cannot eliminate pain in the same way, because pain is inevitable while suffering is optional.

I am all for honoring the pain, for listening to it. Pain always brings powerful information, pain teaches us. When we resist the pain it becomes stronger. But here is the key thing to understand: listening to the pain does not necessarily imply that you have to suffer. The reason why many times we resist the pain is that we confuse pain with suffering.

We can be aware of our pain, and we can choose to release ourselves from suffering. By embracing the pain and listening to why it is here and what it is hear to teach us we can gracefully heal the pain without suffering. Actually, we can even rejoice that the pain is here to set us free.

On the other side of resistance are flow, ease, and grace.

If pain is knocking at your door welcome it in, ask it “what are you here to show me”? Keep asking, keep listening and keep choosing.

Important distinction: when we suffer from chronic pain means that we associate a traumatic experience with the physical pain, that then creates an inner dialogue with a vicious that translates to feelings that coincide with suffering, and increases muscle tension and stress, making it stay chronic. In this case you may need help to clear the trauma, heal what was the foundational experience that created the original pain.

I am here to support you as you live your transformational journey.

Loving light and healing intent,

 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Shamanic Coach & Healer

“Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it.” [J.K. Rowling in Harry Potter, The Goblet of Fire]

What is going on for you?

Are you feeling it too, major transformation forces at work for all of us?

For certain I am personally in the midst of a whirlwind of energies having traveled back to Tuscany arriving at a house where I hadn’t been before.

With my delayed return due to COVID, my husband and younger son ended up having to move from our old house into this new house and settling in on their own. As I landed after two days of traveling and connecting flights I felt a “uni-focused” vision that led me to finish moving in. It took four days of 9 physical working hours to settle in: hanging paintings, hanging shelves, cleaning closets, unpacking boxes, finding the right place for every single thing, cleaning, purging, and more. Pfewww!! And now after barely one week back I finally feel I am fullly landing in body, heart, mind, and soul.

I know that the powerful transformational energies at work for all of us are showing up in a big way in my life and I also know that many of you are feeling the same way.

What is going for you?
What is changing for you?
Have you had to surrender?
Have you had to change, adapt?
Have you had to let go?
Have you had to release anger?

These times have been showing us the truth of how life really is. In the past, we may have had the “illusion” that we were in control and all illusions have been shattered. We’ve had to release expectations about our plans, and most likely whatever you thought was going to happen for you has now been turned completely upside down.

This journey has been and continues to be a wake-up call for the entire conscious community and for those of us who choose to be aware that we are being called to rise up and bring love and light to Earth.

I have learned a few lessons throughout this fast-changing reality that I want to share with you today with the hope that you may benefit from my experience.

Being here in Tuscany I am being called to have patience, be compassionate, and pay attention to what is instead of pushing for what I had thought this time should be like. When I think about it, the truth is that it has been this way for at least the past 5 months since I was forced to stay in the USA during lock-down instead of being in Italy with my loved ones.

Yesterday, as I finally landed fully and felt grounded in our new place I felt the energy within myself calm and change from whirlwind inspired action to stand still. I joyfully stopped and took time to go inside, to feel, and to take stock and get current with how I am feeling and asking “what’s next”, “what now”?

In front of me, there is a whole lot of unknown, piles of uncertainty, and loads of blank space on my slate. 🙂

Clearly the universe is asking something new of us that is not what I was thinking, nor what you were asking before as well.

Are you in touch with it?
If you are not, trust me, I get it! And not to worry, you’ve got this! Get curious and go inside for answers!

I’ve had to take some time to look into the unknown prior to traveling and now once again with new eyes and a different energy. So here is what I’ve learned.

Step 1: Learn to let go of what was. You’ve got to let go to grow! Take time to feel and allow the emotions to show themselves fully and pass through your system. Allow the energy to be in motion as the word itself tells us to do: e-motion. You have to feel whatever it is you are carrying inside to heal it, there is no way around it but only THROUGH it.

Step 2: Honor your needs. Become masterful at it! The emotions showed you where you need love, appreciation, understanding, nurturing, compassion, and more. Therefore, it is up to you to be good at getting your needs met. What do you need to do in order to do so? Who can help you? Where and how can you fulfill your needs given today’s reality?

Step 3: Find your truth. Drop the musts and shoulds. Remember we are lucky because we can choose to actually live in a dogma-free time. You are not here to repeat by rote, you can find what is meaningful for you and seek to have the revelations for yourself.

Step 4: Understand that you won’t get far with pushing and pulling however I guarantee that you will get exhausted and frustrated. Understand that pushing where it’s not working won’t take you anywhere. Trying to get your way at all costs is not possible, now more than ever. Figure this out: what do you need so that you can be in alignment, centered, in the flow, and not in push-pull? What needs to happen for you to change your behavior? Realize that you can choose to do something different and you WILL get different results.

You get to take care of the precious body temple that is the home for your soul. And remember to be patient. I must remember this BIG time! We cannot change the world in a flash, but the more we take responsibility and do our part in living our truth, we are paving the way for a new world and for all generations to come.

What’s your story? What’s happening in your life now? I am here to help if you need me, I am only a reply away.

Love and light!

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Shamanic Coach & Healer

 

I am, I have, I can, I feel…

I am.

I have.

I can.

I feel.

These are the most powerful statements from which we can actively participate in the process of co-creation.

It is not important if we can’t see yet what we state, because when we think prosperity, wealth, abundance, we can go beyond the thought of what we see, and understand that prosperity in its broadest perspective has its genesis in the unseen.

Play with the above statements with what you desire, as if you were stating the truth in the present tense.

I am enough

I have love

I can choose

I feel vibrant

Create a sacred time and space, you know how to do this, and ponder, contemplate and then write down as many I am, I have, I can and I feel statements as you wish to colorfully activate the feelings and tone of the life you desire….

My statements have been…

I am loved by my husband and sons

I have Divine Guidance

I can fly to Italy

I feel supported

And…. I will be flying to Italy the day after tomorrow!

Create a sacred time and space, you know how to do this, and ponder, contemplate and then write down as many I am, I have, I can and I feel statements as you wish to colorfully activate the feelings and tone of the life you desire….

Love and light!

 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Shamanic Coach & Healer

Nothing needs to happen

Are you confused and exhausted, one minute gnashing your teeth and then dancing a happy dance only to begin keening once again all based on the latest news. Don’t let the weight and density of the world squash your tender spirit, be reminded that it’s through the extreme pressure of life’s trials that diamonds are cultivated.

Last week I celebrated a young lady’s high school graduation ceremony. She and I share a mother-daughter relationship and I was very touched by it all, the graduating ceremony being a wonderful pivot doing everything on-line and in cars and yet fabulous and an event to remember. One of the speakers took us back memory lane during the last four years and we were all shocked by the number of events that have happened during this timeline. 

A traditional Zen Buddhist fable tells of a farmer to whom all kinds of events happened and his reaction when people would enter the drama of saying how wonderful or how terrible that “thing” was, he would answer “this could be good or this could be bad, who could say, we shall see”.  [Read Zen Buddhist full story!]

In these tumultuous times, this philosophy could serve as well. When I can find a moment to center myself, to be silent, to pray, to meditate, to contemplate, I am able to access the energy of equanimity of this Zen farmer. Equanimity and curiosity, are two words that came to me yesterday morning after my meditation, the definition of equanimity is “mental calmness, composure, and evenness of temper, especially in a difficult situation.” Just like the Zen farmer, we have the capacity to be composed regardless of what is happening around and to be curiously asking ourselves what good can come out of this?, what can I do to make things better?, and how can I learn and become a better person?.

When I live life remembering that life happens FOR me and not TO me my perspective changes. Everything is exactly as it should be. Nothing needs to happen differently.

I invite you to go within every single day. If you are already doing it, how about doing it for a little bit longer? I know that when I take time to connect with my highest self it becomes easier for me to understand that events are happening in Divine timing. I reconnect with hope an possibility.  I understand that what can be perceived as chaos, death, or delay is actually a transformation that has in it a tendril of new life that only needs our trust and our faith to eventually take form.

So what do you say? Shall we go back to the wisdom of our spiritual masters and stand in the truth that nothing needs to happen?.
I know that my biggest tool now is to sit in quiet Zen meditation focusing on my breathing and making room for the expansion inevitably happens inside of me. As I make room for the Divine to flow through me I know that what seems bad may actually be a blessing. Making room to sit in a meditative space opens our eyes (all three of them!) to appreciate our blessings and to be curious and patient having poise and composure asking and see what comes next. Who could say? We shall see.
Are you with me?
Love and light

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Shamanic Coach & Healer
BUDDHIST ZEN FARMER FABLE

 

(Known in different sources as a Chinese Taoist tale)

 

A farmer who had worked his crops for many years was working in his field one late summer afternoon with his old sick horse. The compassionate farmer decided to let the horse loose to live out the rest of its life free in the mountains. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. “Such bad luck your horse was so old”, they said sympathetically. The farmer replied: “Who could say? We shall see.”

Two days later the old horse came back with 3 other wild horses, which followed the old horse into the corral. “How wonderful,” the neighbors exclaimed. The farmer softly said, “Who could say? We shall see.”

The next morning the farmer’s only son tried to train the new wild horses and was thrown to the groundbreaking his leg. Once again the neighbors came to offer their sympathy for what they called his “misfortune, now you won’t have his help and you’ll have to do all the work yourself. “Maybe”, the farmer answered, “Who could say? We shall see.”

A few days later, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, he was deemed unfit for war and passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out. “You must be very happy” they said. “Who could say? We shall see” replied the farmer.

With time the son’s leg healed and was left with a slight limp. Again the neighbors came to pay their condolences and again the farmer replied “Who could say? We shall see.”

When war ended the villager found out that their sons had all died in the war. As it turned the farmer and his son were the only able bodied men capable of working the village lands. Since the farmer was who he was, as he became wealthy he was also very generous to the villagers. They said: “Oh how fortunate we are; you must be very happy” to which the farmer softly calmly said, “Who could say? We shall see.”