It is their fault!

Do you find yourself examining different aspects of your relationships and often thinking it is “their fault” or “they are in this way”?

When you think in this way you are projecting and when you are projecting you disown what you don’t believe is yours. You are putting outside of yourself a part of you that you are not ready to admit to or that you cannot see. We call this part of ourselves our shadow.

Embracing our shadow side allows us to also embrace the gift that comes from the part of the shadow that is lit. Isn’t that interesting?

We cannot see in others what we don’t already have inside. When we point our finger at someone else in a derogatory way or in praise, it is because we have that same thing within us. It may be in our shadow on in our light, but you can rest assured it is within us.

When you come to understand you contain everything you see in others your entire world will alter.

Since the Universe always works with us and for us, if there is an aspect of ourselves we don’t accept we will continuously attract people in our lives who act out that aspect. “Ain’t that nice”!

The gift in this stems from the fact that with some aspects of ourselves, unless we don’t accept the shadow part, we cannot rejoice from acknowledging the gift within it. So imagine, for example, the power from accepting that “yes, I am a geek, because you know what, I am also super intelligent” (assuming that being a geek is an aspect you disown).

Shadow work is a big part of the healing process when you are moving from emotional pain into joy and opening up to love. I work with my clients to help them recognize their shadow AND welcome it together with its gift.

Here is a simple exercise you can do to get a better gist on this. Imagine there was an article written about you in a local newspaper. What are 5 things you would not want to be said about you? And what would be 5 things they could say about you that wouldn’t matter to you? The litmus test is to realize that all these words reflect aspects of you. The trick is that you were taught at an early age by family and friends that the first 5 words are the wrong things to be. Taking back these aspects of ourselves we have disowned is a crucial part our the journey to love.  This is a road that leads to our inner freedom.

Feel free to contact me to learn more about the way I work with my clients and shadow work. I will put a button below so you can contact me.

Love and LOTS OF LIGHT!

Valerie Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

 

What is your biggest “hunger”?

What is your biggest hunger telling you?

What is that fire burning inside? Are you listening?

Are you yearning for love and connection? Then let’s do something about this! Let’s go for it! What are you waiting for?

Stop playing the victim.
Stop playing small.
Stop staying in hiding.
Stop pretending you are a fragile doll.
Stop HURTING.

What is it costing you to stay in a place of hiding, hurt and fragile?

Are you ready to take the leap and go for passion? Embrace your power? And truly open up to true love?

I guide women to get ready for love again, and you know what? I love what I do, but I realize it is not only a one on one job. The more of us, women, that connect with LOVE, with our gifts, and are ready to love, the more we can guide our men into the energy of true love.

With our sacred feminine love, we can guide and help men connect with their sacred masculine and heal old karmic wounds freeing them as well to live more balanced lives and allowing their emotions to have a large space in their lives.

I believe that both as women and as men, as we connect with love and get ready for love, we truly impact the world. It sounds like big words, but they are not. It is as simple as the imagery of a drop in the ocean. Yes, a drop is small, but there would be no ocean without drops. The same is true for a grain of sand in a desert.

Love and light!

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

Have you given to get?

I want to point out a quote from “A Course In Miracles” and take it from there: [“Giving to get” is an inescapable law of the ego, which always evaluates itself in relation to other egos.]

The reason why I am bringing this up is that often times when we are hurt and can’t seem to find our true love, what is going in on is that we have a belief, often times subconscious, that we don’t deserve to receive. We have an automated re-action pattern by which we give too much; we are givers to the extreme of only allowing ourselves to receive if we have “given enough”.

Look back into your life and your dynamics and evaluate how many times did you allow yourself to receive and it what context? Take the most honest stock, looking at “what is”, is step number 1 to be able to transform it, if we wish to.

You may find out that in your relationships as a daughter, son, mother, wife, ex-wife, partner, friend… you have a pattern of giving too much. If this is the case you might have had rifts in many relationships because the dynamic has had you giving to the point of getting really depleted and even resentful for it.

The truth is that you deserve to receive as much as you give and give as much as you receive, AND receive for no reason. Giving and receiving is the breath of love. One cannot exist without the other and, our love center (the heart chakra) is balanced when our flow of giving and receiving is fluent, harmonious and balanced.

Remember you are worthy simply because you are and I may add, “worthiness” is a choice. 

The difficulty is that our “old stories” run our show, and our ego’s compulsion to be accepted and loved does not leave us free to choose.  Tricky isn’t it? BUT you can always choose to heal and write your “new story”, fresh and vibrant. What is YOUR choice?

Love and brilliance,

Valerie Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

6 Powerful LOVE Affirmations

I am a firm believer in the power of mindset work, mindfulness, affirmations, and mantras to support our manifestation and transformation. Rewiring our brains to transform our beliefs is one of the many ways in which we influence our co-creation.

Prior to going to the hospital for my surgery, I did a lot of mindset work connecting with my body, preparing mind and body for the surgery, so the body could be ready to receive and accept the prosthesis and everything that came with the surgery. I did a lot of affirmations about it all of it being okay.

And it has been!

I have used affirmations successfully in my life to “re-wire” my mind on many beliefs I wanted to transform. Today I am sharing with you a few LOVE mantras so you can transform your beliefs about love.

Enjoy them!

The point is to say them out loud many times a day, to write them in your journals, to feel them and embody them often for at least 100 days.

  •  I am open and receptive to all the love life offers me. I love this mantra as a starting point because it is an invitation for love to come into your life. You are informing the Universe that you are ready to and open to “receive”.
  • I am surrounded by love. What you focus on is what you get more of. With this affirmation you ensure you focus on what you HAVE versus what you don’t have..
  • I deserve love. Too often we sell ourselves short believe we don’t deserve what is coming or even what we have because of profound traumas that have us believing we are “unworthy”.
  •  I live an abundant life. Abundant life as in everything! Love, relationships, family, health, wealth.
  • My dreams are coming true. Dream, desire, set goals and ACT upon them. If you are taking inspired action then this more than an affirmation is reinforcing a fact.
  • Thank you. Gratitude is a big door opener for everything we want to manifest and more so with love. Always add thank you for …. adding the things you DO have and you are grateful for. Thank life, thank the people in your life, thank YOURSELF!

Lots of love and light!

Valerie Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

Are you AWARE of how amazing you are?

 

Are you AWARE of how amazing you are?

I am not kidding and this is not a catch phrase.

Seriously, how tolerant are you being with not getting what you desire?  It is time you become intolerant with delayed results!

Can you allow yourself to take responsibility for everything that is happening in your life? You are truly such a powerful creator, that every single thing present in your life, is a creation of yours, either by desire or by contrast, by love or by fear. 

I know this is a hard truth to swallow but this acceptance comes also the realization that you have all the power to create what you WISH!!! ONCE you allow yourself to let go of the limiting beliefs that are holding you back, once you are able to see how fear is stopping the flow of love, you open up to receive love and fulfillment.

Learn, accept, remember that the Universe is not trying to punish you. The Universe is not putting you through some resistance trial. On the contrary, the Universe WANTS you to succeed. The Universe wants you to be the most beautiful being you can be!

You must be available to take in all of who you are, light and shadow, so that you can see how the energy of fear and love play act in your daily choices. There are only to ways, love and fear, the problem is that sometimes we are not able to acknowledge nor distinguish the fear energy in our choices. Our ego is fearful and subtle playing games with us so that we think we are choosing love but we are really not doing so. 

YOU HAVE LIMITLESS POWER, TAP INTO IT. You are made of the same substance as God and the Universe.

Can you relate? If you can, then let have a chat so I can support you in your journey to love.

Book your free call CLICKING HERE.

Love and light!

Valerie Bottazzi

Love & Success Coach 




“If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself that you are not poet enough to call forth its riches; for the Creator, there is no poverty.” [Rainer Maria Rilke]
 
 

I love my life

“I love my life.

I love who I have become.”

These are the two first sentences in my journal this morning.

As I was writing them I realized I wanted…no cancel that! I NEEDED to share this with you.

I couldn’t have written this a couple of years ago. I have come a long way. I have gone through the in-famous” dark night of the soul, and I have been transformed, forged like iron under fire; because fire has been… and water, and wind, and earth.

I am such a different person than I used to be. What I like has changed, what I enjoy has changed, what I do has changed, what I eat has changed… but there is one thing has hasn’t changed: my essence.

I have remembered who I am. I have removed layers of the ego, layers of the mask I had built to “protect” myself. Don’t get me wrong, I am by no means a “finished product”. However, I am at a stage in my life where some important rocks of the foundation of who I am are now sturdy and clear.

A fundamental part of my metamorphosis has been honoring myself and making sure I have my “sacred time” on a daily basis.

This is my favorite time after waking up. I honor my soul, my mind and my body. I meditate, I journal and I exercise. I will fight for this time now, I will ensure I find it no matter how early I have to get up to have this space.

My candles, my silence, my “mate”, my wall-staring time, my journal and, here and there I pull out a “magical dimension cards”, for fun!

This is what I wish for you as well, that you may honor yourself. I wish for you that you can do what makes you feel good, that you manifest what you desire, that you get the love your yearn for, that you your eyes open in keep child-like wonder throughout life.

This is why I have started my weekly training series. I want to be of service. I want to help you find that space and that healing that will make you tell the whole world that “you love your life”.

You can save your spot for next week HERE.

Love and brilliance!

Valerie Bottazzi

Love and Success Coach