Are you playing mind games?

Boy oh boy, I am hearing from so many of you. Some are anxious about what will be after “we go back” to normal. Others are confused about all the contrasting information that abounds in social media, the news, and what people are saying. Many are wondering about their own financial future, job, love, travel life…. You name it. Which is your mind game at this time? Are you aware of an inner dialogue that is making you unsettled in any way?
 
Check-in with yourself and your inner compass. Never mind what is everyone telling you, TV, friends, Facebook… This is a time where we are being called to awaken to what is real. In Sanskrit, the word Maya means “magic” or “illusion”. In Buddhism, the concept of Maya brings the awareness of that which exists but is constantly changing and thus is spiritually unreal and thus conceals the true character of spiritual reality. What we believe to be our real world is, in reality, our dream, and when we awaken to our dream state we realize that where we go in our dreams is more real than what we thought to be real.
 
I know, it’s our conundrum and also our opportunity during this time to awaken to what shamans called the dream state. Are you living in Maya? Is this time testing you? Stretching you? Are you reconsidering your beliefs and verifying them with your intuition?
 
What a gift this time is for us to awaken, to delve deep, to expand our intuition and trust more than ever what it is telling us! Use your gut, check-in with yourself to discern from all the information coming your way, which one is true for you and discard what doesn’t uplift you.
 
As you expand your intuitive gifts remember the Earth and thus our minds are in duality. Whenever you find yourself going back and forth between two thoughts: is it real or is it not? it is this way but maybe it’s that way? … understand that you are being governed by your “mind” instead of your heart where duality cannot live. When this happens take a deep breath and go into your heart where you will find the answer.
 
Ask yourself “what do I want to contribute to the new world that is emerging”? And know all is well.

Love and light,


Valerie Shakti Bottazzi

Life Coach & Healer

7 “Anxiety Killer” Steps

Last week I had a difficult week in a way I hadn’t experienced before.
I was having a combination of physical exhaustion and difficulty to stay present in my life and my body. This created a series of events that I judged as negative and that created “a bit” of a downward spiral.

You know how big I am about co-creation, positive thinking and feeling, and how I strive to be in integrity by walking my own talk. As I realized I was “freaking out” was going into negative thinking I said to myself “enough, I know what to do about this”.

The process I went through has 7 basic steps that I am sharing with you so you can use them when you may need them. We are all human and we all may have moments when things seem less than rosy, don’t we?

Step #1 is to NOTICE what is going on.
​You DO know when you are heading into negativity, you may feel some anxiety, and your thoughts take you down into more of the same.  The simple act of “noticing” the thought shifts you immediately from “being in the situation” to “observing the situation” which leads to the next step.  And, guess what? You may journal about what comes up for you to gain further clarity.

Step #2 is to RECOGNIZE the FEELINGS
Now that you are aware of what is going on ask yourself “how am I feeling”? The answer is crucial for you because you will become VERY aware that you are not feeling particularly good. For me, the thoughts were of this type “I am anxious because I SHOULD be doing xyz and I am physically tired and can’t allow myself to rest” (have you ever felt this way! LOL).

Step #3: FORGIVE yourself for having these thoughts 
Forgive yourself for not being “perfect”, for being human, for being out of alignment. It happens to the best of us! Ask yourself “what is positive about this situation?”, “what can I learn from what has just happened or is happening”?

Step #5 CLEAR YOURSELF and CLEAR your SPACE​​
Use​ any techniques you know to clear your subtle bodies and help yourself by also clearing the space where you live. Do some smudging, light some incense and candles, or do it your own way. This will support your ability to pivot and take the following steps.

Step #5: OPPORTUNITY
What you did in the prior steps was to “press the PAUSE button” and by doing so you created space to CHOOSE what you want to create. Now you can ask yourself “how can I do this differently”, “Is my thought real?”, “is this true”?  You will realize for sure how there is a better course of action and how your “internal dialogue” was not necessarily true or that you could adjust it and choose differently.

Step #6 CLEAR YOURSELF and CLEAR your SPACE​​
Use​ any techniques you know to clear your subtle bodies and help yourself by also clearing the space where you live. Do some smudging, light some incense and candles, or do it your own way. This will support your ability to pivot and take the following steps.

Step #7 DIVINE GUIDANCE
Always tap into your higher self or Divine Guidance. Ask to be supported and shown what is best for you and to fully integrate the learning. Meditate and/or journal about this too.

Step #6 GRATITUDE
Always, always, always, remember to be grateful for every opportunity we have to grow, learn, expand and live a better happier more fulfilled life.

With love AND GRATITUDE,

 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi

Spiritual Life Coach

It is their fault!

Do you find yourself examining different aspects of your relationships and often thinking it is “their fault” or “they are in this way”?

When you think in this way you are projecting and when you are projecting you disown what you don’t believe is yours. You are putting outside of yourself a part of you that you are not ready to admit to or that you cannot see. We call this part of ourselves our shadow.

Embracing our shadow side allows us to also embrace the gift that comes from the part of the shadow that is lit. Isn’t that interesting?

We cannot see in others what we don’t already have inside. When we point our finger at someone else in a derogatory way or in praise, it is because we have that same thing within us. It may be in our shadow on in our light, but you can rest assured it is within us.

When you come to understand you contain everything you see in others your entire world will alter.

Since the Universe always works with us and for us, if there is an aspect of ourselves we don’t accept we will continuously attract people in our lives who act out that aspect. “Ain’t that nice”!

The gift in this stems from the fact that with some aspects of ourselves, unless we don’t accept the shadow part, we cannot rejoice from acknowledging the gift within it. So imagine, for example, the power from accepting that “yes, I am a geek, because you know what, I am also super intelligent” (assuming that being a geek is an aspect you disown).

Shadow work is a big part of the healing process when you are moving from emotional pain into joy and opening up to love. I work with my clients to help them recognize their shadow AND welcome it together with its gift.

Here is a simple exercise you can do to get a better gist on this. Imagine there was an article written about you in a local newspaper. What are 5 things you would not want to be said about you? And what would be 5 things they could say about you that wouldn’t matter to you? The litmus test is to realize that all these words reflect aspects of you. The trick is that you were taught at an early age by family and friends that the first 5 words are the wrong things to be. Taking back these aspects of ourselves we have disowned is a crucial part our the journey to love.  This is a road that leads to our inner freedom.

Feel free to contact me to learn more about the way I work with my clients and shadow work. I will put a button below so you can contact me.

Love and LOTS OF LIGHT!

Valerie Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

 

Have you given to get?

I want to point out a quote from “A Course In Miracles” and take it from there: [“Giving to get” is an inescapable law of the ego, which always evaluates itself in relation to other egos.]

The reason why I am bringing this up is that often times when we are hurt and can’t seem to find our true love, what is going in on is that we have a belief, often times subconscious, that we don’t deserve to receive. We have an automated re-action pattern by which we give too much; we are givers to the extreme of only allowing ourselves to receive if we have “given enough”.

Look back into your life and your dynamics and evaluate how many times did you allow yourself to receive and it what context? Take the most honest stock, looking at “what is”, is step number 1 to be able to transform it, if we wish to.

You may find out that in your relationships as a daughter, son, mother, wife, ex-wife, partner, friend… you have a pattern of giving too much. If this is the case you might have had rifts in many relationships because the dynamic has had you giving to the point of getting really depleted and even resentful for it.

The truth is that you deserve to receive as much as you give and give as much as you receive, AND receive for no reason. Giving and receiving is the breath of love. One cannot exist without the other and, our love center (the heart chakra) is balanced when our flow of giving and receiving is fluent, harmonious and balanced.

Remember you are worthy simply because you are and I may add, “worthiness” is a choice. 

The difficulty is that our “old stories” run our show, and our ego’s compulsion to be accepted and loved does not leave us free to choose.  Tricky isn’t it? BUT you can always choose to heal and write your “new story”, fresh and vibrant. What is YOUR choice?

Love and brilliance,

Valerie Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

Are you AWARE of how amazing you are?

 

Are you AWARE of how amazing you are?

I am not kidding and this is not a catch phrase.

Seriously, how tolerant are you being with not getting what you desire?  It is time you become intolerant with delayed results!

Can you allow yourself to take responsibility for everything that is happening in your life? You are truly such a powerful creator, that every single thing present in your life, is a creation of yours, either by desire or by contrast, by love or by fear. 

I know this is a hard truth to swallow but this acceptance comes also the realization that you have all the power to create what you WISH!!! ONCE you allow yourself to let go of the limiting beliefs that are holding you back, once you are able to see how fear is stopping the flow of love, you open up to receive love and fulfillment.

Learn, accept, remember that the Universe is not trying to punish you. The Universe is not putting you through some resistance trial. On the contrary, the Universe WANTS you to succeed. The Universe wants you to be the most beautiful being you can be!

You must be available to take in all of who you are, light and shadow, so that you can see how the energy of fear and love play act in your daily choices. There are only to ways, love and fear, the problem is that sometimes we are not able to acknowledge nor distinguish the fear energy in our choices. Our ego is fearful and subtle playing games with us so that we think we are choosing love but we are really not doing so. 

YOU HAVE LIMITLESS POWER, TAP INTO IT. You are made of the same substance as God and the Universe.

Can you relate? If you can, then let have a chat so I can support you in your journey to love.

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Love and light!

Valerie Bottazzi

Love & Success Coach 




“If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself that you are not poet enough to call forth its riches; for the Creator, there is no poverty.” [Rainer Maria Rilke]