Unplug From Suffering

SufferING is an active choice.
We don’t say painING but we say sufferING.

Pain is the physical sensations that tells you something is happening within your body in relation to an event or situation.

Suffering is the interpretation or story that you tell yourself about the pain.

Suffering is a vibrational spectrum. You’ve got the choice to stop from suffering, you can unplug from that vibrational frequency. We cannot eliminate pain in the same way, because pain is inevitable while suffering is optional.

I am all for honoring the pain, for listening to it. Pain always brings powerful information, pain teaches us. When we resist the pain it becomes stronger. But here is the key thing to understand: listening to the pain does not necessarily imply that you have to suffer. The reason why many times we resist the pain is that we confuse pain with suffering.

We can be aware of our pain, and we can choose to release ourselves from suffering. By embracing the pain and listening to why it is here and what it is hear to teach us we can gracefully heal the pain without suffering. Actually, we can even rejoice that the pain is here to set us free.

On the other side of resistance are flow, ease, and grace.

If pain is knocking at your door welcome it in, ask it “what are you here to show me”? Keep asking, keep listening and keep choosing.

Important distinction: when we suffer from chronic pain means that we associate a traumatic experience with the physical pain, that then creates an inner dialogue with a vicious that translates to feelings that coincide with suffering, and increases muscle tension and stress, making it stay chronic. In this case you may need help to clear the trauma, heal what was the foundational experience that created the original pain.

I am here to support you as you live your transformational journey.

Loving light and healing intent,

 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Shamanic Coach & Healer

“Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it.” [J.K. Rowling in Harry Potter, The Goblet of Fire]

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What is going on for you?

Are you feeling it too, major transformation forces at work for all of us?

For certain I am personally in the midst of a whirlwind of energies having traveled back to Tuscany arriving at a house where I hadn’t been before.

With my delayed return due to COVID, my husband and younger son ended up having to move from our old house into this new house and settling in on their own. As I landed after two days of traveling and connecting flights I felt a “uni-focused” vision that led me to finish moving in. It took four days of 9 physical working hours to settle in: hanging paintings, hanging shelves, cleaning closets, unpacking boxes, finding the right place for every single thing, cleaning, purging, and more. Pfewww!! And now after barely one week back I finally feel I am fullly landing in body, heart, mind, and soul.

I know that the powerful transformational energies at work for all of us are showing up in a big way in my life and I also know that many of you are feeling the same way.

What is going for you?
What is changing for you?
Have you had to surrender?
Have you had to change, adapt?
Have you had to let go?
Have you had to release anger?

These times have been showing us the truth of how life really is. In the past, we may have had the “illusion” that we were in control and all illusions have been shattered. We’ve had to release expectations about our plans, and most likely whatever you thought was going to happen for you has now been turned completely upside down.

This journey has been and continues to be a wake-up call for the entire conscious community and for those of us who choose to be aware that we are being called to rise up and bring love and light to Earth.

I have learned a few lessons throughout this fast-changing reality that I want to share with you today with the hope that you may benefit from my experience.

Being here in Tuscany I am being called to have patience, be compassionate, and pay attention to what is instead of pushing for what I had thought this time should be like. When I think about it, the truth is that it has been this way for at least the past 5 months since I was forced to stay in the USA during lock-down instead of being in Italy with my loved ones.

Yesterday, as I finally landed fully and felt grounded in our new place I felt the energy within myself calm and change from whirlwind inspired action to stand still. I joyfully stopped and took time to go inside, to feel, and to take stock and get current with how I am feeling and asking “what’s next”, “what now”?

In front of me, there is a whole lot of unknown, piles of uncertainty, and loads of blank space on my slate. 🙂

Clearly the universe is asking something new of us that is not what I was thinking, nor what you were asking before as well.

Are you in touch with it?
If you are not, trust me, I get it! And not to worry, you’ve got this! Get curious and go inside for answers!

I’ve had to take some time to look into the unknown prior to traveling and now once again with new eyes and a different energy. So here is what I’ve learned.

Step 1: Learn to let go of what was. You’ve got to let go to grow! Take time to feel and allow the emotions to show themselves fully and pass through your system. Allow the energy to be in motion as the word itself tells us to do: e-motion. You have to feel whatever it is you are carrying inside to heal it, there is no way around it but only THROUGH it.

Step 2: Honor your needs. Become masterful at it! The emotions showed you where you need love, appreciation, understanding, nurturing, compassion, and more. Therefore, it is up to you to be good at getting your needs met. What do you need to do in order to do so? Who can help you? Where and how can you fulfill your needs given today’s reality?

Step 3: Find your truth. Drop the musts and shoulds. Remember we are lucky because we can choose to actually live in a dogma-free time. You are not here to repeat by rote, you can find what is meaningful for you and seek to have the revelations for yourself.

Step 4: Understand that you won’t get far with pushing and pulling however I guarantee that you will get exhausted and frustrated. Understand that pushing where it’s not working won’t take you anywhere. Trying to get your way at all costs is not possible, now more than ever. Figure this out: what do you need so that you can be in alignment, centered, in the flow, and not in push-pull? What needs to happen for you to change your behavior? Realize that you can choose to do something different and you WILL get different results.

You get to take care of the precious body temple that is the home for your soul. And remember to be patient. I must remember this BIG time! We cannot change the world in a flash, but the more we take responsibility and do our part in living our truth, we are paving the way for a new world and for all generations to come.

What’s your story? What’s happening in your life now? I am here to help if you need me, I am only a reply away.

Love and light!

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Shamanic Coach & Healer

 

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I am, I have, I can, I feel…

I am.

I have.

I can.

I feel.

These are the most powerful statements from which we can actively participate in the process of co-creation.

It is not important if we can’t see yet what we state, because when we think prosperity, wealth, abundance, we can go beyond the thought of what we see, and understand that prosperity in its broadest perspective has its genesis in the unseen.

Play with the above statements with what you desire, as if you were stating the truth in the present tense.

I am enough

I have love

I can choose

I feel vibrant

Create a sacred time and space, you know how to do this, and ponder, contemplate and then write down as many I am, I have, I can and I feel statements as you wish to colorfully activate the feelings and tone of the life you desire….

My statements have been…

I am loved by my husband and sons

I have Divine Guidance

I can fly to Italy

I feel supported

And…. I will be flying to Italy the day after tomorrow!

Create a sacred time and space, you know how to do this, and ponder, contemplate and then write down as many I am, I have, I can and I feel statements as you wish to colorfully activate the feelings and tone of the life you desire….

Love and light!

 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Shamanic Coach & Healer
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It’s not too late!

The New Year is here, heck, the New Decade is here, however, you are still on time to set high intentions for the new journey!

There are 3 practices I use and coach with to help prepare yourself for a powerful time.
I recommend you do all of these, as described below, in one sitting. Take at least 1 hour of time, create a sacred place where you sit down with your journal and connect within with the following guidance.

1. Release The Old. If you haven’t done it yet. The idea is to re-visit with your thoughts the decade we have just left behind, and in more detail the year 2019. Think of what topics, things, areas and people, are stopping you from living the best version of yourself. With intention release them, bless them, and send them in to the light knowingly choosing to leave them in the past.

2. Honor What You Did. Now make a list of 50 things you accomplished during the past year. YES FIFTY!!! Believe me, you have. They can be small or big, but they must be at least fifty. This exercise will leave you with a sense of accomplishment. We tend to forget how much we have done.

3. Set High Intentions. Finally, think about those things you want to create, those people you want to connect, reconnect, guide and be guided by and with, those events you want to live, and those things you want to transform. Honor what you have already done, those relationships you want to enrich, and visualize, think, feel and write it all down!

These 3 steps will make you enter this new decade with a feeling of possibility, joy and empowerment. It will connect you with YOUR unique vision and gifts helping you bring forth the maximum from yourself and into the world.

Begin today creating a big wonderful container to live your best ever decade of your life!

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi

Life Coach & Healer

“People tend to overestimate what they can do in 1 year and underestimate what they can do in a decade.” [Tony Robbins]

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Affirmations to start your day

 

Today I share a tool to support you as you harness the potential available to you as you walk your soulful path.

Anything we think, say or do will effect your life, therefore, it is important to nip the negative inner dialogue in the bud.

When you are going along the day or facing a challenge, what does your inner voice say? Does it encourage you with a “Heck yay, you can do it!” or does your internal critic kick in?

Whenever you find yourself within a negative loop of self-talk, the antidote is to interrupt the pattern and replace it with positive affirmations. Therefore, I want to give you a tool that you can practice every day so you can be ready to transform your inner dialogue to go from defeatist to constructive.

Know that YOU CAN control your thoughts, and that to break the habit of negative thinking you need to switch the channel in your brain to banish the negativity, and replace those thoughts with positive, valid words of wisdom.

Affirmations are positive statements that describe a desired situation or goal in the present tense as if the situation has already happened.

The way to use affirmations is to repeat them often as a way to reprogram your brain and motivate your mind to act according to the repeated words. This repetition tricks your subconscious mind to believe these statements and accept them as true, raising  your vibration and creating a positive field to attract congruent events and situations into your life.

I am sharing with you a shortlist of positive thoughts to get you started so that you can then add your own:

* I am a master at what I do
* I genuinely believe in myself
* I love and accept myself just the way I am
* I am grateful for ….. (this goes a long way, create as many as you wish!)
* I have peace and harmony in my life
* I am masterful at accomplishing whatever I set your mind to.

“I am” statements are super powerful. Create as many “I am …” with a positive adjective following the dots, as you can muster. Most of all HAVE FUN and enjoy loving yourself through positive statement affirmations.

Lots of love,
Shine bright!

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Life Coach & Healer

 

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