Have you given to get?

I want to point out a quote from “A Course In Miracles” and take it from there: [“Giving to get” is an inescapable law of the ego, which always evaluates itself in relation to other egos.]

The reason why I am bringing this up is that often times when we are hurt and can’t seem to find our true love, what is going in on is that we have a belief, often times subconscious, that we don’t deserve to receive. We have an automated re-action pattern by which we give too much; we are givers to the extreme of only allowing ourselves to receive if we have “given enough”.

Look back into your life and your dynamics and evaluate how many times did you allow yourself to receive and it what context? Take the most honest stock, looking at “what is”, is step number 1 to be able to transform it, if we wish to.

You may find out that in your relationships as a daughter, son, mother, wife, ex-wife, partner, friend… you have a pattern of giving too much. If this is the case you might have had rifts in many relationships because the dynamic has had you giving to the point of getting really depleted and even resentful for it.

The truth is that you deserve to receive as much as you give and give as much as you receive, AND receive for no reason. Giving and receiving is the breath of love. One cannot exist without the other and, our love center (the heart chakra) is balanced when our flow of giving and receiving is fluent, harmonious and balanced.

Remember you are worthy simply because you are and I may add, “worthiness” is a choice. 

The difficulty is that our “old stories” run our show, and our ego’s compulsion to be accepted and loved does not leave us free to choose.  Tricky isn’t it? BUT you can always choose to heal and write your “new story”, fresh and vibrant. What is YOUR choice?

Love and brilliance,

Valerie Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

Testimonial by Viviana Giambruni

First of all, I want to emphasize the deep and professional dedication of your work.

I have said it before and I repeat it now, I was pleasantly surprised by the focus of your work, since it is not a usual coaching approach, but much more and deeply healing in different aspects. During our time together I was surprised several times, especially in the incredible online meetings via Zoom, in which the connection was as strong as if we would have been face to face in the same room.

The whole journey was a blend of energetic work and coaching creating as a result, a deep healing with very powerful encounter, each one of them, heightened by each meditation that you generously offered when the sessions called for it.

I have unforgettable moments from this journey thanks to the deep healing that happened at all levels of my being.

In my humble opinion, your incredible abilities are not properly promoted. I never imagined I would have received so much at so many levels throughout these 12 beautiful weekly sessions.

In addition, I always felt accompanied during the week by each module while integrating the energies generated in our online encounters.

In short, a very committed and deep professional work, which I have not enough words to thank you for! I highly recommend the coaching system in the unique style of Valerie Bottazzi.

 

Viviana Giambruni

Architect, Viviana Giambruni Architect

Testimonial by Elies Hadi

Valerie is highly intuitive & provides loving space for deep healing work.

She is able to dive deep into an issue to resolve the core of the problem which is very transformative and powerful.

I had the privilege to be coached by her and guided through a powerful process where I felt safe, love and healed an important piece of my family dynamics which has transformed my relationship with my family, money and business, ever since!

I would recommend to work with Valerie without hesitation!

Elies Hadi

Life Coach, Elies Hadi International

Testimonial by Helen Lingard

When I started working with Valerie I was stuck both financially and relationship wise.

The main topics I wanted to address were that I hadn’t had a relationship in many years, I had a block that has stopped me from receiving financial abundance through my work as a coach and I was carrying a lot of guilt over my marriage, thinking I had destroyed it.

Valerie helped me work through all of it. For example she pointed out that in fact, my ex had rocked the foundations previously, helping me release a lot of guilt with a fresh outlook.

I’m more confident, I am now talking to people asking me about my coaching, and I’ve had men approach me, all of which hadn’t happened in a long time.

Valerie was instrumental in working through the issues and helping me untangle them.

Valerie’s approach and her help pointing out the direction, was very helpful in finding the solutions and working with me so I could release some of the ‘burdens’ I had been carrying for way too long.

I feel as if a lid has been lifted, and lots of ‘stuff’ and memories have come up and keep coming up for me now. I feel the locked gates have been opened and this is freeing and enlightening.

I hired Valerie for a 4 hour intensive; she managed to give so much value in what seems like a short time. Valerie is very approachable, capable, fun and warm.

I would absolutely recommend working with Valerie!

Helen Lingard

Empowerment Coach, Be Deliciously Free

What is a soulmate?

What is a soulmate?
 
I am sure you’ve heard many say they’d like to find their soulmate, but do we know what a soulmate really is? And how does it differ from our twin flame?
 
A soul mate is a person for which your soul is attracted to their spiritual essence, we could say they are our perfect match. Contrary to common belief, soulmate relationships, are not necessarily harmonious. However, if you embrace love and the challenge a soulmate brings on, you will both live the experience of a deeply nourishing relationship. 
 
The purpose of a soulful relationship is to ensure your partner expands and lives life in the best version of them. As a soulmate, your mission is to nudge your partner to extend beyond their comfort zones and your mission is to hold the vision for your lives as a couple lived at the highest level.
 
Soulmates are attracted by our radiant essence and passionate commitment to our soulful purpose. Living our lives in a soulful relationship means that we will be cheered along as we stretch and leap beyond our upper limits. A soulful relationship is one where the attraction is at the level of the soul, the mind and the body, this type of relationship can be challenging at times but always rewarding and fulfilling. 
 
There tends to be a lot of confusion about what a “twin flame” relationship really is. Unlike soulmates which are part of our spiritual family (as I mentioned above, our perfect match), twin flames are our perfect mirrors. 
 
Relationships with twin flames tend to be on-again-off-again, intensely passionate, and sometimes intensely painful. While relationships with our soulmates tend to be in service to a higher spiritual intention and if both souls “remember” the agreement they did before their incarnation, the relationship may be joyful and fulfilling.
 
It is common to get a tingling feeling or a sensation of déjà vu when we meet our soulmate and our twin-flame for the first time, so make sure you keep your antennas up and your awareness on…. And don’t worry about missing out as we make more than one agreement to ensure we live up to our soulful purpose.
 
I’d love to hear your ideas on this newsletter. You may contact me with this link.
Love and light!

Shine bright!

Valerie Bottazzi
Love & Success Coach

PS: I invite you to book a “Breakthrough to Love” call with me. During our “Breakthrough to Love” session, together we will explore what is keeping you from attracting your desired love;  you will come away knowing the #1 thing you can do to start attracting your soul mate today! BOOK YOUR CALL NOW

“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise.” [Richard Bach]