What is going on for you?

Are you feeling it too, major transformation forces at work for all of us?

For certain I am personally in the midst of a whirlwind of energies having traveled back to Tuscany arriving at a house where I hadn’t been before.

With my delayed return due to COVID, my husband and younger son ended up having to move from our old house into this new house and settling in on their own. As I landed after two days of traveling and connecting flights I felt a “uni-focused” vision that led me to finish moving in. It took four days of 9 physical working hours to settle in: hanging paintings, hanging shelves, cleaning closets, unpacking boxes, finding the right place for every single thing, cleaning, purging, and more. Pfewww!! And now after barely one week back I finally feel I am fullly landing in body, heart, mind, and soul.

I know that the powerful transformational energies at work for all of us are showing up in a big way in my life and I also know that many of you are feeling the same way.

What is going for you?
What is changing for you?
Have you had to surrender?
Have you had to change, adapt?
Have you had to let go?
Have you had to release anger?

These times have been showing us the truth of how life really is. In the past, we may have had the “illusion” that we were in control and all illusions have been shattered. We’ve had to release expectations about our plans, and most likely whatever you thought was going to happen for you has now been turned completely upside down.

This journey has been and continues to be a wake-up call for the entire conscious community and for those of us who choose to be aware that we are being called to rise up and bring love and light to Earth.

I have learned a few lessons throughout this fast-changing reality that I want to share with you today with the hope that you may benefit from my experience.

Being here in Tuscany I am being called to have patience, be compassionate, and pay attention to what is instead of pushing for what I had thought this time should be like. When I think about it, the truth is that it has been this way for at least the past 5 months since I was forced to stay in the USA during lock-down instead of being in Italy with my loved ones.

Yesterday, as I finally landed fully and felt grounded in our new place I felt the energy within myself calm and change from whirlwind inspired action to stand still. I joyfully stopped and took time to go inside, to feel, and to take stock and get current with how I am feeling and asking “what’s next”, “what now”?

In front of me, there is a whole lot of unknown, piles of uncertainty, and loads of blank space on my slate. 🙂

Clearly the universe is asking something new of us that is not what I was thinking, nor what you were asking before as well.

Are you in touch with it?
If you are not, trust me, I get it! And not to worry, you’ve got this! Get curious and go inside for answers!

I’ve had to take some time to look into the unknown prior to traveling and now once again with new eyes and a different energy. So here is what I’ve learned.

Step 1: Learn to let go of what was. You’ve got to let go to grow! Take time to feel and allow the emotions to show themselves fully and pass through your system. Allow the energy to be in motion as the word itself tells us to do: e-motion. You have to feel whatever it is you are carrying inside to heal it, there is no way around it but only THROUGH it.

Step 2: Honor your needs. Become masterful at it! The emotions showed you where you need love, appreciation, understanding, nurturing, compassion, and more. Therefore, it is up to you to be good at getting your needs met. What do you need to do in order to do so? Who can help you? Where and how can you fulfill your needs given today’s reality?

Step 3: Find your truth. Drop the musts and shoulds. Remember we are lucky because we can choose to actually live in a dogma-free time. You are not here to repeat by rote, you can find what is meaningful for you and seek to have the revelations for yourself.

Step 4: Understand that you won’t get far with pushing and pulling however I guarantee that you will get exhausted and frustrated. Understand that pushing where it’s not working won’t take you anywhere. Trying to get your way at all costs is not possible, now more than ever. Figure this out: what do you need so that you can be in alignment, centered, in the flow, and not in push-pull? What needs to happen for you to change your behavior? Realize that you can choose to do something different and you WILL get different results.

You get to take care of the precious body temple that is the home for your soul. And remember to be patient. I must remember this BIG time! We cannot change the world in a flash, but the more we take responsibility and do our part in living our truth, we are paving the way for a new world and for all generations to come.

What’s your story? What’s happening in your life now? I am here to help if you need me, I am only a reply away.

Love and light!

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Shamanic Coach & Healer

 

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It is their fault!

Do you find yourself examining different aspects of your relationships and often thinking it is “their fault” or “they are in this way”?

When you think in this way you are projecting and when you are projecting you disown what you don’t believe is yours. You are putting outside of yourself a part of you that you are not ready to admit to or that you cannot see. We call this part of ourselves our shadow.

Embracing our shadow side allows us to also embrace the gift that comes from the part of the shadow that is lit. Isn’t that interesting?

We cannot see in others what we don’t already have inside. When we point our finger at someone else in a derogatory way or in praise, it is because we have that same thing within us. It may be in our shadow on in our light, but you can rest assured it is within us.

When you come to understand you contain everything you see in others your entire world will alter.

Since the Universe always works with us and for us, if there is an aspect of ourselves we don’t accept we will continuously attract people in our lives who act out that aspect. “Ain’t that nice”!

The gift in this stems from the fact that with some aspects of ourselves, unless we don’t accept the shadow part, we cannot rejoice from acknowledging the gift within it. So imagine, for example, the power from accepting that “yes, I am a geek, because you know what, I am also super intelligent” (assuming that being a geek is an aspect you disown).

Shadow work is a big part of the healing process when you are moving from emotional pain into joy and opening up to love. I work with my clients to help them recognize their shadow AND welcome it together with its gift.

Here is a simple exercise you can do to get a better gist on this. Imagine there was an article written about you in a local newspaper. What are 5 things you would not want to be said about you? And what would be 5 things they could say about you that wouldn’t matter to you? The litmus test is to realize that all these words reflect aspects of you. The trick is that you were taught at an early age by family and friends that the first 5 words are the wrong things to be. Taking back these aspects of ourselves we have disowned is a crucial part our the journey to love.  This is a road that leads to our inner freedom.

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Love and LOTS OF LIGHT!

Valerie Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

 

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What is your biggest “hunger”?

What is your biggest hunger telling you?

What is that fire burning inside? Are you listening?

Are you yearning for love and connection? Then let’s do something about this! Let’s go for it! What are you waiting for?

Stop playing the victim.
Stop playing small.
Stop staying in hiding.
Stop pretending you are a fragile doll.
Stop HURTING.

What is it costing you to stay in a place of hiding, hurt and fragile?

Are you ready to take the leap and go for passion? Embrace your power? And truly open up to true love?

I guide women to get ready for love again, and you know what? I love what I do, but I realize it is not only a one on one job. The more of us, women, that connect with LOVE, with our gifts, and are ready to love, the more we can guide our men into the energy of true love.

With our sacred feminine love, we can guide and help men connect with their sacred masculine and heal old karmic wounds freeing them as well to live more balanced lives and allowing their emotions to have a large space in their lives.

I believe that both as women and as men, as we connect with love and get ready for love, we truly impact the world. It sounds like big words, but they are not. It is as simple as the imagery of a drop in the ocean. Yes, a drop is small, but there would be no ocean without drops. The same is true for a grain of sand in a desert.

Love and light!

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

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Have you given to get?

I want to point out a quote from “A Course In Miracles” and take it from there: [“Giving to get” is an inescapable law of the ego, which always evaluates itself in relation to other egos.]

The reason why I am bringing this up is that often times when we are hurt and can’t seem to find our true love, what is going in on is that we have a belief, often times subconscious, that we don’t deserve to receive. We have an automated re-action pattern by which we give too much; we are givers to the extreme of only allowing ourselves to receive if we have “given enough”.

Look back into your life and your dynamics and evaluate how many times did you allow yourself to receive and it what context? Take the most honest stock, looking at “what is”, is step number 1 to be able to transform it, if we wish to.

You may find out that in your relationships as a daughter, son, mother, wife, ex-wife, partner, friend… you have a pattern of giving too much. If this is the case you might have had rifts in many relationships because the dynamic has had you giving to the point of getting really depleted and even resentful for it.

The truth is that you deserve to receive as much as you give and give as much as you receive, AND receive for no reason. Giving and receiving is the breath of love. One cannot exist without the other and, our love center (the heart chakra) is balanced when our flow of giving and receiving is fluent, harmonious and balanced.

Remember you are worthy simply because you are and I may add, “worthiness” is a choice. 
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The difficulty is that our “old stories” run our show, and our ego’s compulsion to be accepted and loved does not leave us free to choose.  Tricky isn’t it? BUT you can always choose to heal and write your “new story”, fresh and vibrant. What is YOUR choice?

Love and brilliance,

Valerie Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

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