Are you giving up on love?

Have you ever wondered what the secret is to finding a quality partner and creating a sustainable, fulfilling love life? What is the secret to having healthy relationships in our lives?

I’m so excited to announce that I was just interviewed on the Midlife Love Out Loud podcast! Click here to listen

We spoke about healthy relationships:

❤️ What do they look like? 
❤️ Where do they start? 
❤️ How can you ensure you will live the best love story in your life? 
AND
❤️ How can you have a loving relationship with who you care about?

Let’s face it.  Being in the second half of life and getting “back out there” can feel daunting. 

With divorce rates skyrocketing and people feeling more dissatisfied in partnership than ever before, and being in midlife after multiple sucky relationships, one would think it isn’t possible to have a fulfilling relationship let alone find one so late in life. 

The good news is it’s more than possible and Midlife Love Out Loud: Your One Stop Love Shop, hosted by Junie Moon –the Love Coach, is a great resource for you!

The show is awesome and I’m so honored to be one of her guests! I invite you to browse throughout all the shows and listen to some them, they are fantastic, even for those of us who already have beautiful relationships, it’s never too much to be reminded of what works! 

Junie is bringing on some of the leading experts in the relationship field and offering tools that actually help you call in the partner you dream of. 

Be sure to subscribe, rate and review it too. That helps us get the word out there about this great show. 

Midlife Love Out Loud offers topics like:

●     How to have healthy communication and less drama
●     How to create bedroom bliss and get your needs met
●     How to date successfully online
●     How to find quality men that want to show up for you
●     How to experience real intimacy where you deeply connect and feel safe to be you
●     How to set healthy boundaries and not get resentful because you abandon your truth
And so much more… 

Junie Moon knows how hard it can be to find love later in life. She has walked in your shoes, and after extensive research, she now helps women find their man by teaching really easy, learnable tools that streamline the whole dating process. That’s why she is sharing the golden nuggets of dating and relationships in this new way…her podcast. 

I am so excited to share this with you. You’re going to learn a ton.  Enjoy! 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Spiritual Teacher & Guide

Is love or fear guiding your decisions?

Love and fear cannot co-exist in the same space. Hope and fear cannot be in our hearts at the same time.

These are times of great turmoil where all our “perceived “ control of our lives has been radically taken away. These tumultuous moments of uncertainty my become our worse demise or our greatest gift: we’ve got a choice to make.

Day after day I am being called to be fully in the present moment. As you know, I am a channel for the Divine and use my gift in my work as a life coach and healer and also for my own becoming. Since the lockdown has started I am being shown only the immediate future and I am being called to stay in the NOW moment.

Choosing to be in the now fully present in this inner journey will bring us the biggest gift; and upon doing so the choice of moving beyond fear and connecting with love, hope and possibility is the most wonderful gift we can give ourselves.

I can almost hear your inner dialogue as you read these lines: “Yes Valerie, very nice words but HOW do I do this when fear takes a grip in my heart and when anxiety chokes my throat or constricts my solar plexus?

I hear you, trust me. I too feel the frequency of the collective unconscious pulling me into fear, anxiety, and more. The answer to this question has several components:

1) Take a stance, choose love, hope, and possibility. State it out loud.

2) Take inspired action to raise your frequency. How does this look? It may be that you stay away of the news other than a few minutes once a day to check where we stand, and that’s it. It may mean that you take more time than ever before to do activities that allow you to listen to your inner divine expression (meditation, journaling, walking in nature, or any other way that works for you!).

3) Be mindful of what you eat. Food is energy and fuels your body. Processed food and carbohydrates, sweets, and sugar will fog your mind and impact your energy and energy bodies as much as your physical resilience to the virus.

4) Use grounding and shielding energy techniques to keep your subtle bodies healthy

5) Keep a schedule. Go to bed and get up at approximately the same time

6) Move your body, dance, walk, practice yoga, or what works for you. Moving your body allows energy to circulate

7) Take time to “slow down and smell the roses” in a way that is an amped version of whatever you may have done until now

I want to hear from you. What is your experience being like? Are you keeping a schedule? Is it easy for you to eat healthily or are you eating more than usual? Let’s stay in touch.

Love and light!

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi

Life Coach & Healer

“I don’t always make the best choices, but today I choose compassion over intolerance, sympathy over hatred and love over fear.”

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Love is the Answer

The Answer is Love!

 

Remember when John Lennon used to sing “love is the answer”?

I know, it is trite, and overused, BUT…. LOVE IS THE ANSWER TO ALL.

Think of this for a moment.

Whenever you feel down because somebody has hurt you, the way out is to give love back.

If you received envy and aggression, yup, you’ve got it, the way to heal YOUR wound is by sending love back.

When your heart has been broken, the way to mend your heart is loving the one who hurt you…

When someone, anyone, has done something that has left you feeling down and broken, the answer is…. Love. You’ve got this.

There is a caveat however and I am going to share this key aspect with you.

I learned from Boddhisatva Fukyo who lived more than 800 years ago a fundamental aspect of answering with love. Around the 1200ths when Buddhism was in a downfall period, people would be aggressive towards those following the Buddhist path to enlightenment. Whenever someone would speak ill of Fukyo, curse him or throw stones at him, he would move to the side to avoid the stones while leaning towards the aggressor, and hands in prayer he would say “I have profound reverence for you, I would never dare treat you with disparagement or arrogance, because I can see the Buddha within you.”

Isn’t this a beautiful anecdote? This story tugs at my heart because it explains very clearly that learning that love is the answer doesn’t mean to “turn the other cheek”. This is not about submission or loving when what you desire is to respond back with similar energies such as hate, revenge, spite or other responses.

Responding with love means protecting oneself from the aggression and the aggressor (as in moving to the side to avoid the stones) BUT understanding that we are all ONE, that we are all a vessel of Source energy. It is about healing ourselves and learning that loving back is the only way to freedom.

I love a good conversation and this subject might create strong opinions in you which I’d love to hear about. Please write to me any time. CLICK HERE to write to me!

Lots of love and light,

 

Valerie Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

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“I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge. That myth is more potent than history. That dreams are more powerful than facts. That hope always triumphs over experience. That laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death.” [Robert Fulghum]

6 Powerful LOVE Affirmations

I am a firm believer in the power of mindset work, mindfulness, affirmations, and mantras to support our manifestation and transformation. Rewiring our brains to transform our beliefs is one of the many ways in which we influence our co-creation.

Prior to going to the hospital for my surgery, I did a lot of mindset work connecting with my body, preparing mind and body for the surgery, so the body could be ready to receive and accept the prosthesis and everything that came with the surgery. I did a lot of affirmations about it all of it being okay.

And it has been!

I have used affirmations successfully in my life to “re-wire” my mind on many beliefs I wanted to transform. Today I am sharing with you a few LOVE mantras so you can transform your beliefs about love.

Enjoy them!

The point is to say them out loud many times a day, to write them in your journals, to feel them and embody them often for at least 100 days.

  •  I am open and receptive to all the love life offers me. I love this mantra as a starting point because it is an invitation for love to come into your life. You are informing the Universe that you are ready to and open to “receive”.
  • I am surrounded by love. What you focus on is what you get more of. With this affirmation you ensure you focus on what you HAVE versus what you don’t have..
  • I deserve love. Too often we sell ourselves short believe we don’t deserve what is coming or even what we have because of profound traumas that have us believing we are “unworthy”.
  •  I live an abundant life. Abundant life as in everything! Love, relationships, family, health, wealth.
  • My dreams are coming true. Dream, desire, set goals and ACT upon them. If you are taking inspired action then this more than an affirmation is reinforcing a fact.
  • Thank you. Gratitude is a big door opener for everything we want to manifest and more so with love. Always add thank you for …. adding the things you DO have and you are grateful for. Thank life, thank the people in your life, thank YOURSELF!

Lots of love and light!

Valerie Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

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How to open up to unconditional LOVE?

It is time for a “love upgrade”.

No matter how good you have it or how you wish you had love in your life, today I want to remind you to open up to unconditional love.

Allow yourself to overflow with unconditional divine love allowing others that are supportive in your life into your heart more and more. Unconditional love is at the core of the heart chakra, and as you expand in love it becomes a love portal.

The heart is capable of giving to yourself and others abundantly while also being able to receive freely, and both, giving and receiving can’t exist without one and the other.

 

 

Today is the perfect day for you to up-level your self-love. It is time to truly love yourself, fully and completely from the highest levels of honor and purity, so you can prepare for an expansive “love upgrade” as you attract what you give yourself.

Be open and receptive to love and loving from your unique self and soul to and from others and brace yourself, because the journey you will embark on is one of endless love and fulfillment beyond limitations!

Love and light!

Shine bright!

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Love Coach & Healer
PS: Are you ready to expand your capacity to give and receive love? If your heart and soul are saying YES then book a “Love Breakthrough” call. It is free and it is a diagnostic call where we will explore the things that are holding you back from self-love and true love. 

“The only way love can last a lifetime is if it’s unconditional. The truth is this: love is not determined by the one being loved but rather by the one choosing to love.” [Stephen Kendrick]