What is a soulmate?

What is a soulmate?
 
I am sure you’ve heard many say they’d like to find their soulmate, but do we know what a soulmate really is? And how does it differ from our twin flame?
 
A soul mate is a person for which your soul is attracted to their spiritual essence, we could say they are our perfect match. Contrary to common belief, soulmate relationships, are not necessarily harmonious. However, if you embrace love and the challenge a soulmate brings on, you will both live the experience of a deeply nourishing relationship. 
 
The purpose of a soulful relationship is to ensure your partner expands and lives life in the best version of them. As a soulmate, your mission is to nudge your partner to extend beyond their comfort zones and your mission is to hold the vision for your lives as a couple lived at the highest level.
 
Soulmates are attracted by our radiant essence and passionate commitment to our soulful purpose. Living our lives in a soulful relationship means that we will be cheered along as we stretch and leap beyond our upper limits. A soulful relationship is one where the attraction is at the level of the soul, the mind and the body, this type of relationship can be challenging at times but always rewarding and fulfilling. 
 
There tends to be a lot of confusion about what a “twin flame” relationship really is. Unlike soulmates which are part of our spiritual family (as I mentioned above, our perfect match), twin flames are our perfect mirrors. 
 
Relationships with twin flames tend to be on-again-off-again, intensely passionate, and sometimes intensely painful. While relationships with our soulmates tend to be in service to a higher spiritual intention and if both souls “remember” the agreement they did before their incarnation, the relationship may be joyful and fulfilling.
 
It is common to get a tingling feeling or a sensation of déjà vu when we meet our soulmate and our twin-flame for the first time, so make sure you keep your antennas up and your awareness on…. And don’t worry about missing out as we make more than one agreement to ensure we live up to our soulful purpose.
 
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Love and light!

Shine bright!

Valerie Bottazzi
Love & Success Coach

PS: I invite you to book a “Breakthrough to Love” call with me. During our “Breakthrough to Love” session, together we will explore what is keeping you from attracting your desired love;  you will come away knowing the #1 thing you can do to start attracting your soul mate today! BOOK YOUR CALL NOW

“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise.” [Richard Bach]

Why is it so difficult to practice self-love

 

Hello there,

Today I was inspired to do a video about

“Why is it difficult to practice self-love?” 💜❤️and as a consequence

“Why is self-love so important? 🙌”

I hope you enjoy it!

 

 

Wanna have a good chat? 💙💎

Here is the link I mention in the video.

During our FREE “Breakthrough to Love” session we will explore what is keeping you from expressing your inner feminine essence and you will come away knowing the #1 thing you can do to start attracting your soul mate today.

BOOK A “BREAKTHROUGH TO LOVE” call with me now

Lots of love!
Shine bright! 👑💄😱🌟

Valerie Bottazzi

Love & Success Coach

5 Steps to Fire Up your relationship

 

I hear many of my clients share with me their deep suffering because they love a partner so completely that they give and have given them their all…without getting what they need and desire in return.

Yes, they suffer because their partner doesn’t reciprocate; on the contrary, they keep taking, and asking for more and taking more, leaving them depleted, hurt and addicted to hope.

Let’s look at this situation from a new perspective and give you some empowering tools to dive deep into this pain and turn it aroundI invite you to journal and dialogue with your partner following these 5 steps.

STEP 1: Ask yourself the following questions

·     Am I standing in my Queenly power, fully and completely?
·     Am I in love with MYSELF fully and completely?
·     Do I accept and love myself first and foremost?

Once you know the answer to these questions do your inner work to make sure the answers are YES for every single one. Journal, write your own mantras, do the work!

STEP 2: Clarity (Clarity is always in there somehow isn’t it?)

Ask yourself what do you want from your partner?

·     Physical presence
·     Love
·     Seeing you
·     Being in his/her power
·     Supporting you in your power
·     ……..   complete your own list here

STEP 3: Love your partner enough to guide them into their inner inquiry

·     Does your partner have a sense of self?
·     Does he/she knows what they want from their life?

As a Queen, it is your task to guide your partner into self-inquiry with direct, clear and open communication

STEP 4: Acceptance and understanding

Acknowledge the dynamic that is going on here and practice presence.
Take action based on what new information comes up.

* Does the relationship need nurturing?
* Do you need to ask for what you want in a clear way?
* Do you need to stand in your power?
* What is needed to bring on joyful communication and light up the fire of love?

STEP 5: Closing empowering question

If you realize that your partner does not want, or is not ready to change his or her ways, you must ask yourself a courageous question:

What are you doing with a man or woman that is not fully available for you?

I am aware that following these 5 steps is not necessarily easy. It is my task to guide you on an inner journey of self-discovery to live the best version of your life. This is why if this message resonates with you, I invite you to book a free “Breakthrough to Love” call with me. Together we will explore what is keeping you from expressing your inner feminine essence so you can come away knowing the #1 thing you can do to start transforming your love life today.

BOOK YOUR CALL NOW

Love and light.

Shine bright!

Valerie Bottazzi
Love & Success Coach
 

“Love loves to love love.” 

Ensure you meet your non-negotiable goals this year!

 

A small tiny course correct can help achieve your goals.

I hope you had a wonderful first week of the year, still with the “holiday season” feelings in your heart!

Now that we are already in WEEK 2 of the new year it is time to get serious!

At this time of the year, we are all about those fitness goals, weight loss goals, business goals, life goals, and more, that all of us normally put out there!

Can you see yourself full of glee and satisfaction awaiting the New Year for 2019?

Probably not huh?

While I love the drive that comes with a fresh start, a lot of what people promise to do in January ends up being unsustainable or becomes less appealing with time, and as the year goes by the good intentions get diluted and fall through into oblivion.

GET CRYSTAL CLEAR ON 3 NON-NEGOTIABLE GOALS

This is why today I want to invite you to get crystal clear on THREE NON-NEGOTIABLE goals for this new year. Make sure you sit down with your journal at hand, your heart connected to your roots and your soul and express clearly 3 things you absolutely MUST achieve this year.

In order to identify them, you can think in your mind “what will happen if I don’t achieve goal a/b/c”?

Connect with how would you FEEL when you achieve these goals. Let the “emotions” be your drive

Once you have got these three goals clearly stated write them down and place them where you can see them all the time around your house.

Have fun with this!!!

If it has to do with self-care or self-worth, how about post-it notes on your bathroom mirror!!!  This way you connect with your goal daily first thing in the morning.

What do you think of post-it notes on the door of the fridge so you can be reminded of them when you get your breakfast early in the day!

Wouldn’t you like to print them and place them in a frame on top of your coffee table in the living room or in your workspace on your desk! 🙂

In order to make sure you pursue them every month at the beginning of every month during 2018 ask yourself what FIVE things you MUST do/achieve in order to stay in line with these non-negotiable goals.

Ask yourself: “are things moving in the right direction? Are situations changing and shifting gradually in the right direction? Or not at all?

Am I making the decisions needed to veer the course in small degrees towards your goals and taking action to back my decisions?

Make sure you do this every single month and make sure you course correct. Remember, you can continuously check if you are on or off course and make small adjustments with your goals in mind.

Keep the intentions alive as time goes by. This is key to make you reach New Year’s Eve 2019 with a smile on your lips and a super fulfilled and joyful heart!

Make this year important and memorable for you.

It is within your power to make this one the best year of your life.

Start today.

With much love.

Shine bright!

Valerie Bottazzi
Soulful Business Coach

PS: Let us get on a call so I can help you get clarity! Clilck this link to book a time!  

Obstacles are what you see when you take your eye off the goal.  [Chris Burke]

What perspective does to you

Funny what perspective does to you.

This morning I woke up and my heart was pouring love and gratitude. Literally. Not just saying it.

While I was still in that state of semi-vigil my mind and my higher-self had a look at the last “20-something” years of my life and mostly looked at the last 2.

A feeling of gratitude overcame me and I understood what a gift all the hardships I have been through the past years have been.

I am a spiritual woman with an inner journey that started during my teenage years, therefore I understand the concept of gratitude for hard times from a mental standpoint, but it is not always easy to shift the knowledge into experience, emotions, and feelings.

I have also revisited my past, my very past PAST, with the help of other coaches and healers and masters, with different tools and approaches such as psychotherapy, meditation, shamanic healing, Osho Prana Healing (energy chakra clearing), Aura-Soma (healing with colors), releasing of cellular memories, and more… I have come at it from every single angle I could gain perspective from.

Through this process I have gained more love for myself and for others, I have dropped judgment and I have learned empathy and compassion.

Excluding the last month where things have changed profoundly, I can clearly state that the last 2 years of my life have been on many levels, mostly the levels that pertain to my own personal power, THE HARDEST ONES.

Why?

Because having a loving soul-caring big-hearted grounded man by my side (yes all of that), that was holding the space for me to safely let go of control and dive even deeper, all shit came lose (pardon my French).

So I dove deep into the very depths of the darkest of nights of the soul… and gave it my all. As you have probably heard before, embracing the darkness in you and allowing it to come inside, you actually dissolve the darkness and allow light to come in. Yup, it is counterintuitive but it works this way.

The underlying key element in this alchemic process is TRUST in life, unshakeable faith in yourself and mostly in the fact that the universe, Source, God (you give it the name that works for you) has your back and wants the best for you. THIS IS THE KEY POINT.

The universe wants what is best for you, and while you are walking through your shadow side, and since you might not remember this and at times may not even believe this is the case, you throw a tantrum to the universe! [Smile] You know what I am talking about. You stamp your feet, and you yell, and you resist, and the more you do this the more you stay where you are! I love the ironic sense of humor of the universe. [Smile – Smile – Smile]

However, when you relentlessly keep at it, when you surf the waves of doubt, when you always, tenaciously come back to that space of trust while holding your vision, you eventually make it through to the other side.

I was telling you about this morning… As I was lying in bed I understood at a cellular level the priceless gift I have been given by walking in my “hardship” shoes.

As I now move forward into a shining future, manifesting more and more the vision of success I have for my heart-centered soulful coaching business, I realize the powerful empathy and understanding that I carry within me, beyond all my training, professional career, certifications and healing path.

I was there, I know what it means to visit the darkest pit, a few examples below:

*there were times when I only had cents to put  food on the table for my sons,
*there was that when I failed in the launch of what I had wrongly perceived was my dream holistic center,
*other moments I felt stuck on a plateau and nothing I was doing seemed to bring results,
* those years with the abusive husband father of my children
* I fell in the hole of the credit matrix
* Many more dark deep black times of depression

The fact that I got back up and accepted a new vision and dream as a co-creator and went after it, the hardships I went through, all of this and more, is POWERFUL, because when you tell me where you are in your own journey, I can embrace you and receive your shadow, holding the space for you to believe in yourself, knowing that magic is real and that what you think is real is, is in fact, the illusion you chose for your spiritual growth.

If I ask myself what was the most powerful element that helped me re-create a new reality for myself I can answer with two things:

  • the belief others had in me when I couldn’t see it encouraged me to remember who I am
  • hanging in there always remembering that after the darkest night comes the dawn.

I want to do this for you, hold the space for you, help you remember your power, who you are and believe in yourself.

The end of the year is a time of evaluation. It is human to look back at the “one-year-bucket” and think about what we did, what we didn’t, what was great, and what was not that great. And it is also a perfect time to set up new goals for the next “bucket” of 1 year.

How about you make the BEST OUT OF 2018 and you kick it off by giving yourself the gift you most likely give your loved ones? What do I mean? I mean putting yourself in the first place, investing in yourself and reaching for that life you know is available for you, a more fulfilling joyful life of ease and grace.

Book a clarity call with me now and let us make a plan together. Know where to start and transform your life.

Much love.
Shine bright!

Valerie Bottazzi
Soulful Business Coach

Every transition is easier if you believe in yourself and your talent. [Priyanka Chopra]

If you believe in yourself everything is possible.[Miley Cyrus]