Up an at em

Up an at ’em gurl!

How do you feely today?

How comfortable are you with where you are at in your life today?

You may be super happy really surfing the wave of your life or you may have a few or many areas of your life where you wish things were different.

I hear you. I can say that most times I will answer the questions above finding a distance between where I would like things to be and what my reality is actually showing me.

Buddha used to say “earthly desires are enlightenment.” What he meant by this is that our struggles are gifts as they act as catalysts for our search for meaning. As we realize the gap between what we want and what our current reality is, the stretch we are called for expands our lives and takes us one step further into tapping into our soulful purpose, experiencing true love and living our best live all around.

Basically, if your life isn’t exactly how you want to be right now there is reason for celebration! Yay!!! You have something to strive for, you have a dream to fulfill, you have a reason to get up perky and ready to hit the ground running every morning.

The key thing is for you to remember that having an imperfect life is perfectly all right. Do not make yourself or your life wrong.

If you need help bridging the gap between where you are and where you want to be let’s talk. You can book a purpose activation session HERE.

Up an at ’em gurl!

Love and inspired action!!

Valerie Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

PS: YOU. ARE. ENOUGH. Let me repeat this so it goes through. YOU ARE ENOUGH.

 

What is your biggest “hunger”?

What is your biggest hunger telling you?

What is that fire burning inside? Are you listening?

Are you yearning for love and connection? Then let’s do something about this! Let’s go for it! What are you waiting for?

Stop playing the victim.
Stop playing small.
Stop staying in hiding.
Stop pretending you are a fragile doll.
Stop HURTING.

What is it costing you to stay in a place of hiding, hurt and fragile?

Are you ready to take the leap and go for passion? Embrace your power? And truly open up to true love?

I guide women to get ready for love again, and you know what? I love what I do, but I realize it is not only a one on one job. The more of us, women, that connect with LOVE, with our gifts, and are ready to love, the more we can guide our men into the energy of true love.

With our sacred feminine love, we can guide and help men connect with their sacred masculine and heal old karmic wounds freeing them as well to live more balanced lives and allowing their emotions to have a large space in their lives.

I believe that both as women and as men, as we connect with love and get ready for love, we truly impact the world. It sounds like big words, but they are not. It is as simple as the imagery of a drop in the ocean. Yes, a drop is small, but there would be no ocean without drops. The same is true for a grain of sand in a desert.

Love and light!

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

I love my life

“I love my life.

I love who I have become.”

These are the two first sentences in my journal this morning.

As I was writing them I realized I wanted…no cancel that! I NEEDED to share this with you.

I couldn’t have written this a couple of years ago. I have come a long way. I have gone through the in-famous” dark night of the soul, and I have been transformed, forged like iron under fire; because fire has been… and water, and wind, and earth.

I am such a different person than I used to be. What I like has changed, what I enjoy has changed, what I do has changed, what I eat has changed… but there is one thing has hasn’t changed: my essence.

I have remembered who I am. I have removed layers of the ego, layers of the mask I had built to “protect” myself. Don’t get me wrong, I am by no means a “finished product”. However, I am at a stage in my life where some important rocks of the foundation of who I am are now sturdy and clear.

A fundamental part of my metamorphosis has been honoring myself and making sure I have my “sacred time” on a daily basis.

This is my favorite time after waking up. I honor my soul, my mind and my body. I meditate, I journal and I exercise. I will fight for this time now, I will ensure I find it no matter how early I have to get up to have this space.

My candles, my silence, my “mate”, my wall-staring time, my journal and, here and there I pull out a “magical dimension cards”, for fun!

This is what I wish for you as well, that you may honor yourself. I wish for you that you can do what makes you feel good, that you manifest what you desire, that you get the love your yearn for, that you your eyes open in keep child-like wonder throughout life.

This is why I have started my weekly training series. I want to be of service. I want to help you find that space and that healing that will make you tell the whole world that “you love your life”.

You can save your spot for next week HERE.

Love and brilliance!

Valerie Bottazzi

Love and Success Coach

 

    Mind over Matter

     

    How many times do you catch your mind self-talk being very mean to you?

    Carl Jung said that “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate”.

    I find this concept extremely powerful because it has been one of the latest things I finally managed to transform…. well let’s be honest, I am still working at it, and the journey never ends! 

    I have been aware for YEARS about how mean our ego can be talking back to us, mine certainly was. I used to listen to my mind talk to me like I would never dare speak to anyone else: mean as it can be. 

    Catching our mental dialogue and recognizing it for what it is, a self-inflicted painful judgment is the first step into being able to make a shift for the better.

    Those things our mind talk to us about are always our biggest pain points. 

    For example:

    * You are worthless
    * You will never amount to anything
    * You are fat
    * You are ugly
    * Look at your body, those flabby legs, that tummy, etc
    * Why would he ever love me
    * I will never be able to come out of this situation 
    …..

    Complete with the above list with the many that are going around!  

    The steps you may take to transform this vicious circle are:

    #1 Becoming aware that it happens
    #2 Catch yourself when it starts 
    #3 Making the conscious decision of making the shift
    #4 Switch the mental statement into a positive mantra

    Here are some examples:   

    Instead of “you will never amount to anything” right there and then say “I am worthy beyond description”

    Instead of “why would he ever love me” replace it in the moment with “I am lovable” and/or “I am worthy of love”

    Instead of “I will never be able to come out of this situation” say to yourself “Wellbeing is always coming to me” or relating to finances you may say “Abundance is outrageous and pervasive and flowing to me now”.

     

     

    You get the point. Now make a conscious effort to transform those things that make you suffer. Raise your vibration daily and start sending great energy to the Universe which I can guarantee you, will mirror back to you as you build enough momentum. 

    Enjoy your weekend! 

    Love and light. 
    Shine bright!


    Valerie Bottazzi
    Love & Success Coach


    “Who looks outside dreams. Who looks inside awakes.” [Carl Jung]

    Holding a grudge

    Did you know that holding a grudge can be beneficial to you? 

    I am serious. This is a discovery from the last years of my life. I don’t call it holding a grudge, I call it “simmering”. 

    Grudges are a part of many people’s lives; people hold grudges against their partner, family members, colleagues, friends and neighbours. 

    I read many times that grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness, however, is for those who are substantial enough to move on. And herein is my point.

    This is how to process a grudge so that it becomes beneficial to you. When you realize that you are holding a grudge allow it to come in, sit with it, SIMMER, mull it over, let it be. Do not act upon it, we tend to think or feel that we must do something about it. This is a tricky part. We tend to want that “grudging” energy to leave but the truth is that it won’t leave unless you simmer through until it becomes a good coffee.

    Energy is always circulating, it is not static, so when you allow the grudge to be, when you dialogue with it and ask what it is trying to show you, when you look into your own part of the interaction that created the grudge, when you see the mirror the grudge is showing you, the energy moves and transforms and simmers and distills.

    Suddenly in one instant, you don’t feel the grudge anymore. It has dissolved. You don’t need to DO anything, it has simply flowed through you leaving you the lessons from the answers to your questions and observations. Forgiveness comes. You don’t have to give it or do it, it is the natural result of simmering and releasing.

    Sure, sitting through the process is uncomfortable. We have not been shown to live THROUGH the E-MOTIONS, we have been taught to suppress them, to deny them, to pent them up. But allowing the e-motion to e-mote, to move, to flow and circulate is liberating.

    There you have it. Holding a grudge can be beneficial to youBy not re-acting to it and creating a build up and more re-action, but by simmering in it and let it dissolve, you learn, you grow, your heart expands and you are set free.

    I would love to hear your opinion! Let me know your thoughts. Contact me and let us talk! 

    Love and SHIMMERING light! (LOL)  

    Valerie Bottazzi
    Soulful Business Coach

    “Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.”  [Jonathan Lockwood Huie]