7 “Anxiety Killer” Steps

Last week I had a difficult week in a way I hadn’t experienced before.
I was having a combination of physical exhaustion and difficulty to stay present in my life and my body. This created a series of events that I judged as negative and that created “a bit” of a downward spiral.

You know how big I am about co-creation, positive thinking and feeling, and how I strive to be in integrity by walking my own talk. As I realized I was “freaking out” was going into negative thinking I said to myself “enough, I know what to do about this”.

The process I went through has 7 basic steps that I am sharing with you so you can use them when you may need them. We are all human and we all may have moments when things seem less than rosy, don’t we?

Step #1 is to NOTICE what is going on.
​You DO know when you are heading into negativity, you may feel some anxiety, and your thoughts take you down into more of the same.  The simple act of “noticing” the thought shifts you immediately from “being in the situation” to “observing the situation” which leads to the next step.  And, guess what? You may journal about what comes up for you to gain further clarity.

Step #2 is to RECOGNIZE the FEELINGS
Now that you are aware of what is going on ask yourself “how am I feeling”? The answer is crucial for you because you will become VERY aware that you are not feeling particularly good. For me, the thoughts were of this type “I am anxious because I SHOULD be doing xyz and I am physically tired and can’t allow myself to rest” (have you ever felt this way! LOL).

Step #3: FORGIVE yourself for having these thoughts 
Forgive yourself for not being “perfect”, for being human, for being out of alignment. It happens to the best of us! Ask yourself “what is positive about this situation?”, “what can I learn from what has just happened or is happening”?

Step #5 CLEAR YOURSELF and CLEAR your SPACE​​
Use​ any techniques you know to clear your subtle bodies and help yourself by also clearing the space where you live. Do some smudging, light some incense and candles, or do it your own way. This will support your ability to pivot and take the following steps.

Step #5: OPPORTUNITY
What you did in the prior steps was to “press the PAUSE button” and by doing so you created space to CHOOSE what you want to create. Now you can ask yourself “how can I do this differently”, “Is my thought real?”, “is this true”?  You will realize for sure how there is a better course of action and how your “internal dialogue” was not necessarily true or that you could adjust it and choose differently.

Step #6 CLEAR YOURSELF and CLEAR your SPACE​​
Use​ any techniques you know to clear your subtle bodies and help yourself by also clearing the space where you live. Do some smudging, light some incense and candles, or do it your own way. This will support your ability to pivot and take the following steps.

Step #7 DIVINE GUIDANCE
Always tap into your higher self or Divine Guidance. Ask to be supported and shown what is best for you and to fully integrate the learning. Meditate and/or journal about this too.

Step #6 GRATITUDE
Always, always, always, remember to be grateful for every opportunity we have to grow, learn, expand and live a better happier more fulfilled life.

With love AND GRATITUDE,

 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi

Spiritual Life Coach

Affirmations to start your day

 

Today I share a tool to support you as you harness the potential available to you as you walk your soulful path.

Anything we think, say or do will effect your life, therefore, it is important to nip the negative inner dialogue in the bud.

When you are going along the day or facing a challenge, what does your inner voice say? Does it encourage you with a “Heck yay, you can do it!” or does your internal critic kick in?

Whenever you find yourself within a negative loop of self-talk, the antidote is to interrupt the pattern and replace it with positive affirmations. Therefore, I want to give you a tool that you can practice every day so you can be ready to transform your inner dialogue to go from defeatist to constructive.

Know that YOU CAN control your thoughts, and that to break the habit of negative thinking you need to switch the channel in your brain to banish the negativity, and replace those thoughts with positive, valid words of wisdom.

Affirmations are positive statements that describe a desired situation or goal in the present tense as if the situation has already happened.

The way to use affirmations is to repeat them often as a way to reprogram your brain and motivate your mind to act according to the repeated words. This repetition tricks your subconscious mind to believe these statements and accept them as true, raising  your vibration and creating a positive field to attract congruent events and situations into your life.

I am sharing with you a shortlist of positive thoughts to get you started so that you can then add your own:

* I am a master at what I do
* I genuinely believe in myself
* I love and accept myself just the way I am
* I am grateful for ….. (this goes a long way, create as many as you wish!)
* I have peace and harmony in my life
* I am masterful at accomplishing whatever I set your mind to.

“I am” statements are super powerful. Create as many “I am …” with a positive adjective following the dots, as you can muster. Most of all HAVE FUN and enjoy loving yourself through positive statement affirmations.

Lots of love,
Shine bright!

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Life Coach & Healer

 

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What is your biggest “hunger”?

What is your biggest hunger telling you?

What is that fire burning inside? Are you listening?

Are you yearning for love and connection? Then let’s do something about this! Let’s go for it! What are you waiting for?

Stop playing the victim.
Stop playing small.
Stop staying in hiding.
Stop pretending you are a fragile doll.
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What is it costing you to stay in a place of hiding, hurt and fragile?

Are you ready to take the leap and go for passion? Embrace your power? And truly open up to true love?

I guide women to get ready for love again, and you know what? I love what I do, but I realize it is not only a one on one job. The more of us, women, that connect with LOVE, with our gifts, and are ready to love, the more we can guide our men into the energy of true love.

With our sacred feminine love, we can guide and help men connect with their sacred masculine and heal old karmic wounds freeing them as well to live more balanced lives and allowing their emotions to have a large space in their lives.

I believe that both as women and as men, as we connect with love and get ready for love, we truly impact the world. It sounds like big words, but they are not. It is as simple as the imagery of a drop in the ocean. Yes, a drop is small, but there would be no ocean without drops. The same is true for a grain of sand in a desert.

Love and light!

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

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Valerie and I had a short phone conversation where together we determined that the best thing for me at the time was to do a 4-hour intensive session which we eventually split into 2 parts on a Saturday and the following Tuesday.

Through her questions and deep analysis, Valerie led me through a series of thoughts and ideas, relating to my life, my current reality, and my emotional obstacles. I couldn’t be more grateful!

With Valerie I was able to break some of my blocks on a couple of topics where I was stuck in my mind, so much so that I couldn’t sleep or think clearly. Valerie went beyond immersing herself in my story, she helped me see the situation form a new perspective which helped me understand how what I was doing hurt me and my loved ones; how I was self-boycotting; and how to do to identify these thoughts and transform them into something positive. I was able to understand the way in which things I had not considered in the past were impacting my present life and how it was hurting my most important relationships. I was able to see how I had not been considering many aspects of some important situations in my life.

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The Healing Journey

The healing journey is a deep thorough 360-degree journey.

Healing emotional and physical pain implies going deep into our souls to the original trauma and revisiting from the safe place where we are now, embracing it, loving and letting go.

The healing journey is of the body, the mind and the soul. Because it is the only possible way. One cannot exist without the other. The are not the same but they are intertwined. They are not the same but they collaborate for good or bad.

The best part is that the healing journey is full of hope, love and aliveness and we always come out the other end renewed, more alive than ever, transformed.

I know.

I know because I have been there more than I care, deep through the throws of the darkest nights with body, mind and soul. I never EVER imagined what a fulfilling, deep, rich life was awaiting for me coming out from suffering. The transformation set me free and it will do the same for you, guaranteed.

I can help you find the resources within yourself. I can hold your hand while you dive deep searching for your own answers. Don’t doubt yourself and don’t doubt that you deserve better. You deserve joy, fulfilment and purpose.

Waking up depleted, not being able to sleep, feeling depression is at your door is not what life should be.

I let you in on a secret: listen well “No one will come with a magic wand to get you out of the mess you are in.”

Yes. I know I thought so too. But only you can do that. You and only you can get yourself from where you are. But the best part of the secret is that it is an empowering and rewarding journey.

Book a clarity call with me. I would love to be in your team. I know that if this message tugs at your heart I can help you. I guide you. I am or your savior. You are. I am your coach, coaching you to get the best out of you taking you to levels you didn’t even know you had within you.

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Love and light.

Shine bright!

Valerie Bottazzi

Life & Success Coach

“The soul always knows what it has to do to heal itself. The challenge is silencing the mind” [Caroline Myss]