Are you giving up on love?

Have you ever wondered what the secret is to finding a quality partner and creating a sustainable, fulfilling love life? What is the secret to having healthy relationships in our lives?

I’m so excited to announce that I was just interviewed on the Midlife Love Out Loud podcast! Click here to listen

We spoke about healthy relationships:

❤️ What do they look like? 
❤️ Where do they start? 
❤️ How can you ensure you will live the best love story in your life? 
AND
❤️ How can you have a loving relationship with who you care about?


Let’s face it.  Being in the second half of life and getting “back out there” can feel daunting. 

With divorce rates skyrocketing and people feeling more dissatisfied in partnership than ever before, and being in midlife after multiple sucky relationships, one would think it isn’t possible to have a fulfilling relationship let alone find one so late in life. 

The good news is it’s more than possible and Midlife Love Out Loud: Your One Stop Love Shop, hosted by Junie Moon –the Love Coach, is a great resource for you!

The show is awesome and I’m so honored to be one of her guests! I invite you to browse throughout all the shows and listen to some them, they are fantastic, even for those of us who already have beautiful relationships, it’s never too much to be reminded of what works! 

Junie is bringing on some of the leading experts in the relationship field and offering tools that actually help you call in the partner you dream of. 

Be sure to subscribe, rate and review it too. That helps us get the word out there about this great show. 

Midlife Love Out Loud offers topics like:

●     How to have healthy communication and less drama
●     How to create bedroom bliss and get your needs met
●     How to date successfully online
●     How to find quality men that want to show up for you
●     How to experience real intimacy where you deeply connect and feel safe to be you
●     How to set healthy boundaries and not get resentful because you abandon your truth
And so much more… 

Junie Moon knows how hard it can be to find love later in life. She has walked in your shoes, and after extensive research, she now helps women find their man by teaching really easy, learnable tools that streamline the whole dating process. That’s why she is sharing the golden nuggets of dating and relationships in this new way…her podcast. 

I am so excited to share this with you. You’re going to learn a ton.  Enjoy! 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Spiritual Teacher & Guide

Stop and smell the roses🌹

Everything in our world is interconnected with waves of energy that we can not see. The subtle bio-energy that flows through all living things, sometimes called chi or life force, can be measured in Hertz.

Choosing thoughts, words, actions, and tools to raise our frequency has been shown to create a positive impact in our lives assisting us in co-creating the life we desire. You may have learned from my videos how emotions that are negative are very low in frequency ranging from 0.2 Hz to 3 Hz on average while powerful emotions such as gratitude and love are above 90 Hz.

So why are roses one of the most popular flowers on Earth as symbols of love, passion, friendship, peace, femininity and more? Have you noticed how the rose flower is all over human lore and even well-known sayings? As in “stop and smell the roses”. It does not say “stop and smell the violets, or the lavender, or the daisies!”.

Let me tell you why. It’s because roses vibrate at the highest frequency, more than any other flower on Earth. Pure extracts from rose can measure as much as 5 times higher as those from her sister plants, like basil and peppermint. This means that it is vibrating on a super high level. And when we are exposed to it, our frequency can rise as well.

I don’t know about you, but I have ALWAYS loved roses. When I was in my late teens and early twenties, I loved using “Eau de Rose Perfume”. I guess my subconscious knew better than I did that when we are exposed to rose essence our frequency can rise as well.

I use to connect with the frequency of roses in many different ways when I perform guided meditations and healings. So you too can connect with it to raise your frequency, even without having it physically, just be evoking its image and perfume.

Other ways in which you can intentionally use this knowledge to help you raise your frequency:

💖 Drink rose-flavored teas.
💖 Create your own rose spray from rose petals and alcohol and spray it in your rooms and on upholstery
💖 Dry rose petals and use them in your ceremonies or to create a potpourri of roses
💖 Grow roses in your gardens and terraces.
💖 Keep roses around in your home
💖 Gift roses
💖 Use rose essential oil topically and in your bathwater.

Practice living to increase your vibrational frequency and use this new knowledge to support you in doing just that. Remember, if you need an energy boost “stop and smell the roses” it literally will enhance your frequency at the cellular level and help you bring you into balance and harmony.

Live intentionally and THINK ROSE!

Love and light!

 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Shamanic Coach & Healer

Unplug From Suffering

SufferING is an active choice.
We don’t say painING but we say sufferING.

Pain is the physical sensations that tells you something is happening within your body in relation to an event or situation.

Suffering is the interpretation or story that you tell yourself about the pain.

Suffering is a vibrational spectrum. You’ve got the choice to stop from suffering, you can unplug from that vibrational frequency. We cannot eliminate pain in the same way, because pain is inevitable while suffering is optional.

I am all for honoring the pain, for listening to it. Pain always brings powerful information, pain teaches us. When we resist the pain it becomes stronger. But here is the key thing to understand: listening to the pain does not necessarily imply that you have to suffer. The reason why many times we resist the pain is that we confuse pain with suffering.

We can be aware of our pain, and we can choose to release ourselves from suffering. By embracing the pain and listening to why it is here and what it is hear to teach us we can gracefully heal the pain without suffering. Actually, we can even rejoice that the pain is here to set us free.

On the other side of resistance are flow, ease, and grace.

If pain is knocking at your door welcome it in, ask it “what are you here to show me”? Keep asking, keep listening and keep choosing.

Important distinction: when we suffer from chronic pain means that we associate a traumatic experience with the physical pain, that then creates an inner dialogue with a vicious that translates to feelings that coincide with suffering, and increases muscle tension and stress, making it stay chronic. In this case you may need help to clear the trauma, heal what was the foundational experience that created the original pain.

I am here to support you as you live your transformational journey.

Loving light and healing intent,

 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Shamanic Coach & Healer

“Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it.” [J.K. Rowling in Harry Potter, The Goblet of Fire]

Are you playing mind games?

Boy oh boy, I am hearing from so many of you. Some are anxious about what will be after “we go back” to normal. Others are confused about all the contrasting information that abounds in social media, the news, and what people are saying. Many are wondering about their own financial future, job, love, travel life…. You name it. Which is your mind game at this time? Are you aware of an inner dialogue that is making you unsettled in any way?
 
Check-in with yourself and your inner compass. Never mind what is everyone telling you, TV, friends, Facebook… This is a time where we are being called to awaken to what is real. In Sanskrit, the word Maya means “magic” or “illusion”. In Buddhism, the concept of Maya brings the awareness of that which exists but is constantly changing and thus is spiritually unreal and thus conceals the true character of spiritual reality. What we believe to be our real world is, in reality, our dream, and when we awaken to our dream state we realize that where we go in our dreams is more real than what we thought to be real.
 
I know, it’s our conundrum and also our opportunity during this time to awaken to what shamans called the dream state. Are you living in Maya? Is this time testing you? Stretching you? Are you reconsidering your beliefs and verifying them with your intuition?
 
What a gift this time is for us to awaken, to delve deep, to expand our intuition and trust more than ever what it is telling us! Use your gut, check-in with yourself to discern from all the information coming your way, which one is true for you and discard what doesn’t uplift you.
 
As you expand your intuitive gifts remember the Earth and thus our minds are in duality. Whenever you find yourself going back and forth between two thoughts: is it real or is it not? it is this way but maybe it’s that way? … understand that you are being governed by your “mind” instead of your heart where duality cannot live. When this happens take a deep breath and go into your heart where you will find the answer.
 
Ask yourself “what do I want to contribute to the new world that is emerging”? And know all is well.

Love and light,


Valerie Shakti Bottazzi

Life Coach & Healer

Is love or fear guiding your decisions?

Love and fear cannot co-exist in the same space. Hope and fear cannot be in our hearts at the same time.

These are times of great turmoil where all our “perceived “ control of our lives has been radically taken away. These tumultuous moments of uncertainty my become our worse demise or our greatest gift: we’ve got a choice to make.

Day after day I am being called to be fully in the present moment. As you know, I am a channel for the Divine and use my gift in my work as a life coach and healer and also for my own becoming. Since the lockdown has started I am being shown only the immediate future and I am being called to stay in the NOW moment.

Choosing to be in the now fully present in this inner journey will bring us the biggest gift; and upon doing so the choice of moving beyond fear and connecting with love, hope and possibility is the most wonderful gift we can give ourselves.

I can almost hear your inner dialogue as you read these lines: “Yes Valerie, very nice words but HOW do I do this when fear takes a grip in my heart and when anxiety chokes my throat or constricts my solar plexus?

I hear you, trust me. I too feel the frequency of the collective unconscious pulling me into fear, anxiety, and more. The answer to this question has several components:

1) Take a stance, choose love, hope, and possibility. State it out loud.

2) Take inspired action to raise your frequency. How does this look? It may be that you stay away of the news other than a few minutes once a day to check where we stand, and that’s it. It may mean that you take more time than ever before to do activities that allow you to listen to your inner divine expression (meditation, journaling, walking in nature, or any other way that works for you!).

3) Be mindful of what you eat. Food is energy and fuels your body. Processed food and carbohydrates, sweets, and sugar will fog your mind and impact your energy and energy bodies as much as your physical resilience to the virus.

4) Use grounding and shielding energy techniques to keep your subtle bodies healthy

5) Keep a schedule. Go to bed and get up at approximately the same time

6) Move your body, dance, walk, practice yoga, or what works for you. Moving your body allows energy to circulate

7) Take time to “slow down and smell the roses” in a way that is an amped version of whatever you may have done until now

I want to hear from you. What is your experience being like? Are you keeping a schedule? Is it easy for you to eat healthily or are you eating more than usual? Let’s stay in touch.

Love and light!

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi

Life Coach & Healer

“I don’t always make the best choices, but today I choose compassion over intolerance, sympathy over hatred and love over fear.”