Why gratitude?

Why is everyone so gung-ho about gratitude? Why is it so difficult to connect with the emotions of gratitude some times?

A few years back I went through a phase where I was waking up with anxiety attacks daily. I was very good at using meditation and energy healing techniques to do what is known as a “spiritual bypass” and overcome this state.

The problem with utilizing techniques to overcome the anxiety attack is that I was leaving the core issue unattended. The underlying trauma that was getting me a panic attack was kept alive and kicking, so every day I had to overcome the same anxiety building up during the night.

At that time a friend of mine was giving me the advice to use gratitude as a door to open up to love and get over the morning anxiety. When she was talking to me about gratitude I could not relate to what she was saying. Intellectually I understood her words but I couldn’t connect emotionally with what she was saying. This inability to relate at an emotional level to gratitude sent me further into a downward spiral of anxiety and fear.

As I deepened my studies working with energy I learned that you cannot leap from the lowest vibration of fear and anxiety straight into gratitude and appreciation which are opposite ends of the emotional vibrational scale. I learned that I had to work my way out from fear and anxiety in incremental steps.

From where I stood emotionally I could connect and envision myself feeling better, more at peace and evenly keeled emotionally in my daily life. It was a matter of doing it in baby steps.

There is something known as the scale of emotional frequency (Ref. David R. Hawkins in his “The Map of Consciousness Explained – see image) that shows the lower vibration emotions being shame and guilt, and as you move upwards you find grief, fear and anger. The pivotal point on the scale is with the emotion of courage.

From the moment you feel courageous your vibration rises as you lean into fear and start believing there is hope for you.

The highest vibration emotions on the scale rise as we shift from courage to love, to gratitude all the way to God Consciousness.

I did my healing moving up on the scale one step at a time. I worked my way from panic attacks daily to anxiety feelings sparingly to feeling good and at ease. When I leveled up I started waking up in the mornings feeling good and clear headed. Only then I was able to lean into fear tapping into my courage, creating a new vision of what was possible for me, believing in it, and YES, I was then able to connect emotionally with love and gratitude.

We have been given the ability to create our world in harmony with the Divine. I urge you to use your God-given gift… and, of course, feel gratitude for it. That is why I work with men and women so they can say YES to their spiritual gifts. I want YOU to prosper and live your own version of a magical and meaningful life.

Let’s shine bright together!

Love and light,

 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Life Coach & Healer

 

“I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought, and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.” [Gilbert C. Chesterton]

Choose your words…

I am in an on-going journey to learn to be a master of my mind, my thoughts, my actions and my deeds. Yes, it is a great goal but don’t get me wrong, it is also selfish. Please allow me to me explain what I mean.

I have learned of the power of words both unspoken and spoken out loud. Words are powerful sound bytes that when thought in our minds create images and recall emotions and feelings, and when spoken out loud literally send the vibration of its meaning out onto the Universe.

Did you know that we think 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts in a day!!! I am serious!!! And it is up to you on what thoughts you choose to stop and pay attention.

Words thus create a big piece of our reality. You might not notice this in your life until you start to be watchful.

For example, let’s imagine you are having an argument with your partner and you think “I know now he is going to be mad at me” and therefore you start walking on eggshells or saying things in a different way and guess what happens? You guessed right, he got mad.

Another scenario may be that you are putting forth a growth project in your business from which you expect to gain more profit, but as you go about it you keep thinking “it’s not going to work”. Need I say more?

You see, your subconscious does not judge whether your thought is accurate or even helpful; it accepts what you tell it as “fact” and does what it can to make what you told it take place.

Words then become the precursor of “self-fulfilling” prophecies both for good and for bad.

I invite you to start becoming a sever observant of your thoughts and of the words you speak up. Watch for catchphrases where inavertedly you may have spoken a statement that has not happened, that has a time frame in the future, yet you say it as if it were truth.

We are used to looking at what is happening in the present moment and thinking and making statements about what is possible in the future based on the now. This type of thinking creates many limitations and stops you from growing and living the life you dream of.

What’s it going to be? Are you going to overlook this or take it to heart? This is powerful stuff, take me up on it!

Love and light.

Shine bright

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Life Coach & Healer

 

“Words are like people, they have their own personalities.”

You do you!

I was recently at the Women’s Leadership Conference in Las Vegas. I had 2 days to be among 1500 women and listen to a dozen women speak from stage.

I laughed, cried and was very inspired by each one of them in a different way.

Can you guess what was their common denominator?

AND

Do you know what was their underlying message regardless of how they chose to convey it?

You guessed right on both accounts. YOU GET TO BE YOU.

Each speaker was A-MA-ZING because they brought their authenticity, their vulnerability and their life experience with them. They spoke from their hearts sharing how their lives cracked them open and how they were able to stand up and make it big.

Most importantly, a common denominator is that at a point in time when they acted upon a certain event by following heart’s calling, as silly as it might have felt in the moment, ended up being a crucial event for their lives becoming their successful soulful path.

You may want to research them and follow them in social media. My favorites were Nely Galan, Mary Kelly, Stacey Nadeau, Patti DeNucci and Mimi Brown. They are sooo different from one another and yet, each one was magnetic sharing their message.

Think for one moment and answer for yourself: “What is holding me back?”.

You know the one and only task you must excell at is for YOU TO BE YOU. I love it when I hear it over and over told by so many spiritual masters and successful people. In order to succeed you don’t have to be or do more, you simply have to “remove” what is superfluous, what is not serving you. You’ve got to remove what is weighing you down, masks and false beliefs, to name a few.

I invite you to CLAIM YOUR purposeful life. You CAN have it all. Believe you can. There is truly nothing in the way other than what you THINK and BELIEVE you CAN or CANNOT DO. So which on is it going to be???

Claim your Purpose Activation Session and start today to create your best life.

You are being called to shine brighter!

YES!!!

Love and light

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi

Life Coach & Healer

Authenticity, living life being true to who you truly want to be.

 

Up an at em

Up an at ’em gurl!

How do you feely today?

How comfortable are you with where you are at in your life today?

You may be super happy really surfing the wave of your life or you may have a few or many areas of your life where you wish things were different.

I hear you. I can say that most times I will answer the questions above finding a distance between where I would like things to be and what my reality is actually showing me.

Buddha used to say “earthly desires are enlightenment.” What he meant by this is that our struggles are gifts as they act as catalysts for our search for meaning. As we realize the gap between what we want and what our current reality is, the stretch we are called for expands our lives and takes us one step further into tapping into our soulful purpose, experiencing true love and living our best live all around.

Basically, if your life isn’t exactly how you want to be right now there is reason for celebration! Yay!!! You have something to strive for, you have a dream to fulfill, you have a reason to get up perky and ready to hit the ground running every morning.

The key thing is for you to remember that having an imperfect life is perfectly all right. Do not make yourself or your life wrong.

If you need help bridging the gap between where you are and where you want to be let’s talk. You can book a purpose activation session HERE.

Up an at ’em gurl!

Love and inspired action!!

Valerie Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

PS: YOU. ARE. ENOUGH. Let me repeat this so it goes through. YOU ARE ENOUGH.

 

It is their fault!

Do you find yourself examining different aspects of your relationships and often thinking it is “their fault” or “they are in this way”?

When you think in this way you are projecting and when you are projecting you disown what you don’t believe is yours. You are putting outside of yourself a part of you that you are not ready to admit to or that you cannot see. We call this part of ourselves our shadow.

Embracing our shadow side allows us to also embrace the gift that comes from the part of the shadow that is lit. Isn’t that interesting?

We cannot see in others what we don’t already have inside. When we point our finger at someone else in a derogatory way or in praise, it is because we have that same thing within us. It may be in our shadow on in our light, but you can rest assured it is within us.

When you come to understand you contain everything you see in others your entire world will alter.

Since the Universe always works with us and for us, if there is an aspect of ourselves we don’t accept we will continuously attract people in our lives who act out that aspect. “Ain’t that nice”!

The gift in this stems from the fact that with some aspects of ourselves, unless we don’t accept the shadow part, we cannot rejoice from acknowledging the gift within it. So imagine, for example, the power from accepting that “yes, I am a geek, because you know what, I am also super intelligent” (assuming that being a geek is an aspect you disown).

Shadow work is a big part of the healing process when you are moving from emotional pain into joy and opening up to love. I work with my clients to help them recognize their shadow AND welcome it together with its gift.

Here is a simple exercise you can do to get a better gist on this. Imagine there was an article written about you in a local newspaper. What are 5 things you would not want to be said about you? And what would be 5 things they could say about you that wouldn’t matter to you? The litmus test is to realize that all these words reflect aspects of you. The trick is that you were taught at an early age by family and friends that the first 5 words are the wrong things to be. Taking back these aspects of ourselves we have disowned is a crucial part our the journey to love.  This is a road that leads to our inner freedom.

Feel free to contact me to learn more about the way I work with my clients and shadow work. I will put a button below so you can contact me.

Love and LOTS OF LIGHT!

Valerie Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer