You do you!

I was recently at the Women’s Leadership Conference in Las Vegas. I had 2 days to be among 1500 women and listen to a dozen women speak from stage.

I laughed, cried and was very inspired by each one of them in a different way.

Can you guess what was their common denominator?

AND

Do you know what was their underlying message regardless of how they chose to convey it?

You guessed right on both accounts. YOU GET TO BE YOU.

Each speaker was A-MA-ZING because they brought their authenticity, their vulnerability and their life experience with them. They spoke from their hearts sharing how their lives cracked them open and how they were able to stand up and make it big.

Most importantly, a common denominator is that at a point in time when they acted upon a certain event by following heart’s calling, as silly as it might have felt in the moment, ended up being a crucial event for their lives becoming their successful soulful path.

You may want to research them and follow them in social media. My favorites were Nely Galan, Mary Kelly, Stacey Nadeau, Patti DeNucci and Mimi Brown. They are sooo different from one another and yet, each one was magnetic sharing their message.

Think for one moment and answer for yourself: “What is holding me back?”.

You know the one and only task you must excell at is for YOU TO BE YOU. I love it when I hear it over and over told by so many spiritual masters and successful people. In order to succeed you don’t have to be or do more, you simply have to “remove” what is superfluous, what is not serving you. You’ve got to remove what is weighing you down, masks and false beliefs, to name a few.

I invite you to CLAIM YOUR purposeful life. You CAN have it all. Believe you can. There is truly nothing in the way other than what you THINK and BELIEVE you CAN or CANNOT DO. So which on is it going to be???

Claim your Purpose Activation Session and start today to create your best life.

You are being called to shine brighter!

YES!!!

Love and light

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi

Life Coach & Healer

Authenticity, living life being true to who you truly want to be.

 

It is their fault!

Do you find yourself examining different aspects of your relationships and often thinking it is “their fault” or “they are in this way”?

When you think in this way you are projecting and when you are projecting you disown what you don’t believe is yours. You are putting outside of yourself a part of you that you are not ready to admit to or that you cannot see. We call this part of ourselves our shadow.

Embracing our shadow side allows us to also embrace the gift that comes from the part of the shadow that is lit. Isn’t that interesting?

We cannot see in others what we don’t already have inside. When we point our finger at someone else in a derogatory way or in praise, it is because we have that same thing within us. It may be in our shadow on in our light, but you can rest assured it is within us.

When you come to understand you contain everything you see in others your entire world will alter.

Since the Universe always works with us and for us, if there is an aspect of ourselves we don’t accept we will continuously attract people in our lives who act out that aspect. “Ain’t that nice”!

The gift in this stems from the fact that with some aspects of ourselves, unless we don’t accept the shadow part, we cannot rejoice from acknowledging the gift within it. So imagine, for example, the power from accepting that “yes, I am a geek, because you know what, I am also super intelligent” (assuming that being a geek is an aspect you disown).

Shadow work is a big part of the healing process when you are moving from emotional pain into joy and opening up to love. I work with my clients to help them recognize their shadow AND welcome it together with its gift.

Here is a simple exercise you can do to get a better gist on this. Imagine there was an article written about you in a local newspaper. What are 5 things you would not want to be said about you? And what would be 5 things they could say about you that wouldn’t matter to you? The litmus test is to realize that all these words reflect aspects of you. The trick is that you were taught at an early age by family and friends that the first 5 words are the wrong things to be. Taking back these aspects of ourselves we have disowned is a crucial part our the journey to love.  This is a road that leads to our inner freedom.

Feel free to contact me to learn more about the way I work with my clients and shadow work. I will put a button below so you can contact me.

Love and LOTS OF LIGHT!

Valerie Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

 

What Does Femininity Feel Like?

Hello Goddess!

If I were to ask you what does femininity feel like to you what would you say?

If I were to ask you how does femininity show up in your life what would you tell me?

There is a tribe in the Amazon that has inspired me, they call themselves the Achuar people.

The live their tribal lives honoring their feminine and masculine roles.

The feminine role is to create such as make babies, cook, and make a special drink that supplies them with carbohydrates and they are the builders.

The masculine role is to hunt, fish, be a warrior, bring home protein, cut down trees to make shelter, and be the required destroyers who keep the village alive.

Both roles, the feminine and the masculine, are essential.

HOWEVER, the Achuar women have one more role … they tell men when to STOP.

It is the women’s role to tell the men when there are enough trees for shelter and they say: ”You don’t need to cut down any more trees”

Women tell them when they’ve brought home enough fish and the village has enough to eat, they say: “Don’t kill any more fish they say”.

It is a beautiful reminder of collaboration rather than competition, of contribution rather than greed, of trusting the Universe always has our back.

This is what femininity looks like for me:

✿ It means becoming fully available to receive

✿ It means knowing the art of receiving

✿ It means connecting to my soul and letting my intuition guide me

✿ It means trusting in my intuition

✿ It means all my desires for beauty, luxury, relaxation, and self-care are a part of my power

✿ It means leaning into my “sexy woman” (makeup, hair, clothes) without guilt or feeling frivolous

✿ It means being strong and compassionate simultaneously

✿ It means empowering those around us

✿ It means knowing how and when to set boundaries (when to say STOP)

✿ It means knowing sensuality and beauty are part of my essence

✿ It means vowing for collaboration rather than competition

✿ It means choosing contribution rather than greed

I’d love to know what does it mean to you. Would you share in my Facebook group “Unleash Your Inner Power”?

 

 

My wish is to empower and inspire you to live with your masculine and feminine side in harmony and balance allowing you to expand and enjoy a fuller richer life.

Shine bright

 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

Have you given to get?

I want to point out a quote from “A Course In Miracles” and take it from there: [“Giving to get” is an inescapable law of the ego, which always evaluates itself in relation to other egos.]

The reason why I am bringing this up is that often times when we are hurt and can’t seem to find our true love, what is going in on is that we have a belief, often times subconscious, that we don’t deserve to receive. We have an automated re-action pattern by which we give too much; we are givers to the extreme of only allowing ourselves to receive if we have “given enough”.

Look back into your life and your dynamics and evaluate how many times did you allow yourself to receive and it what context? Take the most honest stock, looking at “what is”, is step number 1 to be able to transform it, if we wish to.

You may find out that in your relationships as a daughter, son, mother, wife, ex-wife, partner, friend… you have a pattern of giving too much. If this is the case you might have had rifts in many relationships because the dynamic has had you giving to the point of getting really depleted and even resentful for it.

The truth is that you deserve to receive as much as you give and give as much as you receive, AND receive for no reason. Giving and receiving is the breath of love. One cannot exist without the other and, our love center (the heart chakra) is balanced when our flow of giving and receiving is fluent, harmonious and balanced.

Remember you are worthy simply because you are and I may add, “worthiness” is a choice. 

The difficulty is that our “old stories” run our show, and our ego’s compulsion to be accepted and loved does not leave us free to choose.  Tricky isn’t it? BUT you can always choose to heal and write your “new story”, fresh and vibrant. What is YOUR choice?

Love and brilliance,

Valerie Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

Testimonial by Viviana Giambruni

First of all, I want to emphasize the deep and professional dedication of your work.

I have said it before and I repeat it now, I was pleasantly surprised by the focus of your work, since it is not a usual coaching approach, but much more and deeply healing in different aspects. During our time together I was surprised several times, especially in the incredible online meetings via Zoom, in which the connection was as strong as if we would have been face to face in the same room.

The whole journey was a blend of energetic work and coaching creating as a result, a deep healing with very powerful encounter, each one of them, heightened by each meditation that you generously offered when the sessions called for it.

I have unforgettable moments from this journey thanks to the deep healing that happened at all levels of my being.

In my humble opinion, your incredible abilities are not properly promoted. I never imagined I would have received so much at so many levels throughout these 12 beautiful weekly sessions.

In addition, I always felt accompanied during the week by each module while integrating the energies generated in our online encounters.

In short, a very committed and deep professional work, which I have not enough words to thank you for! I highly recommend the coaching system in the unique style of Valerie Bottazzi.

 

Viviana Giambruni

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