It is their fault!

Do you find yourself examining different aspects of your relationships and often thinking it is “their fault” or “they are in this way”?

When you think in this way you are projecting and when you are projecting you disown what you don’t believe is yours. You are putting outside of yourself a part of you that you are not ready to admit to or that you cannot see. We call this part of ourselves our shadow.

Embracing our shadow side allows us to also embrace the gift that comes from the part of the shadow that is lit. Isn’t that interesting?

We cannot see in others what we don’t already have inside. When we point our finger at someone else in a derogatory way or in praise, it is because we have that same thing within us. It may be in our shadow on in our light, but you can rest assured it is within us.

When you come to understand you contain everything you see in others your entire world will alter.

Since the Universe always works with us and for us, if there is an aspect of ourselves we don’t accept we will continuously attract people in our lives who act out that aspect. “Ain’t that nice”!

The gift in this stems from the fact that with some aspects of ourselves, unless we don’t accept the shadow part, we cannot rejoice from acknowledging the gift within it. So imagine, for example, the power from accepting that “yes, I am a geek, because you know what, I am also super intelligent” (assuming that being a geek is an aspect you disown).

Shadow work is a big part of the healing process when you are moving from emotional pain into joy and opening up to love. I work with my clients to help them recognize their shadow AND welcome it together with its gift.

Here is a simple exercise you can do to get a better gist on this. Imagine there was an article written about you in a local newspaper. What are 5 things you would not want to be said about you? And what would be 5 things they could say about you that wouldn’t matter to you? The litmus test is to realize that all these words reflect aspects of you. The trick is that you were taught at an early age by family and friends that the first 5 words are the wrong things to be. Taking back these aspects of ourselves we have disowned is a crucial part our the journey to love.  This is a road that leads to our inner freedom.

Feel free to contact me to learn more about the way I work with my clients and shadow work. I will put a button below so you can contact me.

Love and LOTS OF LIGHT!

Valerie Bottazzi

Love Coach & Healer

 

Testimonial by Elies Hadi

Valerie is highly intuitive & provides loving space for deep healing work.

She is able to dive deep into an issue to resolve the core of the problem which is very transformative and powerful.

I had the privilege to be coached by her and guided through a powerful process where I felt safe, love and healed an important piece of my family dynamics which has transformed my relationship with my family, money and business, ever since!

I would recommend to work with Valerie without hesitation!

Elies Hadi

Life Coach, Elies Hadi International

Testimonial by Helen Lingard

When I started working with Valerie I was stuck both financially and relationship wise.

The main topics I wanted to address were that I hadn’t had a relationship in many years, I had a block that has stopped me from receiving financial abundance through my work as a coach and I was carrying a lot of guilt over my marriage, thinking I had destroyed it.

Valerie helped me work through all of it. For example she pointed out that in fact, my ex had rocked the foundations previously, helping me release a lot of guilt with a fresh outlook.

I’m more confident, I am now talking to people asking me about my coaching, and I’ve had men approach me, all of which hadn’t happened in a long time.

Valerie was instrumental in working through the issues and helping me untangle them.

Valerie’s approach and her help pointing out the direction, was very helpful in finding the solutions and working with me so I could release some of the ‘burdens’ I had been carrying for way too long.

I feel as if a lid has been lifted, and lots of ‘stuff’ and memories have come up and keep coming up for me now. I feel the locked gates have been opened and this is freeing and enlightening.

I hired Valerie for a 4 hour intensive; she managed to give so much value in what seems like a short time. Valerie is very approachable, capable, fun and warm.

I would absolutely recommend working with Valerie!

Helen Lingard

Empowerment Coach, Be Deliciously Free

What is a soulmate?

What is a soulmate?
 
I am sure you’ve heard many say they’d like to find their soulmate, but do we know what a soulmate really is? And how does it differ from our twin flame?
 
A soul mate is a person for which your soul is attracted to their spiritual essence, we could say they are our perfect match. Contrary to common belief, soulmate relationships, are not necessarily harmonious. However, if you embrace love and the challenge a soulmate brings on, you will both live the experience of a deeply nourishing relationship. 
 
The purpose of a soulful relationship is to ensure your partner expands and lives life in the best version of them. As a soulmate, your mission is to nudge your partner to extend beyond their comfort zones and your mission is to hold the vision for your lives as a couple lived at the highest level.
 
Soulmates are attracted by our radiant essence and passionate commitment to our soulful purpose. Living our lives in a soulful relationship means that we will be cheered along as we stretch and leap beyond our upper limits. A soulful relationship is one where the attraction is at the level of the soul, the mind and the body, this type of relationship can be challenging at times but always rewarding and fulfilling. 
 
There tends to be a lot of confusion about what a “twin flame” relationship really is. Unlike soulmates which are part of our spiritual family (as I mentioned above, our perfect match), twin flames are our perfect mirrors. 
 
Relationships with twin flames tend to be on-again-off-again, intensely passionate, and sometimes intensely painful. While relationships with our soulmates tend to be in service to a higher spiritual intention and if both souls “remember” the agreement they did before their incarnation, the relationship may be joyful and fulfilling.
 
It is common to get a tingling feeling or a sensation of déjà vu when we meet our soulmate and our twin-flame for the first time, so make sure you keep your antennas up and your awareness on…. And don’t worry about missing out as we make more than one agreement to ensure we live up to our soulful purpose.
 
I’d love to hear your ideas on this newsletter. You may contact me with this link.
Love and light!

Shine bright!

Valerie Bottazzi
Love & Success Coach

PS: I invite you to book a “Breakthrough to Love” call with me. During our “Breakthrough to Love” session, together we will explore what is keeping you from attracting your desired love;  you will come away knowing the #1 thing you can do to start attracting your soul mate today! BOOK YOUR CALL NOW

“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise.” [Richard Bach]

The Healing Journey

The healing journey is a deep thorough 360-degree journey.

Healing emotional and physical pain implies going deep into our souls to the original trauma and revisiting from the safe place where we are now, embracing it, loving and letting go.

The healing journey is of the body, the mind and the soul. Because it is the only possible way. One cannot exist without the other. The are not the same but they are intertwined. They are not the same but they collaborate for good or bad.

The best part is that the healing journey is full of hope, love and aliveness and we always come out the other end renewed, more alive than ever, transformed.

I know.

I know because I have been there more than I care, deep through the throws of the darkest nights with body, mind and soul. I never EVER imagined what a fulfilling, deep, rich life was awaiting for me coming out from suffering. The transformation set me free and it will do the same for you, guaranteed.

I can help you find the resources within yourself. I can hold your hand while you dive deep searching for your own answers. Don’t doubt yourself and don’t doubt that you deserve better. You deserve joy, fulfilment and purpose.

Waking up depleted, not being able to sleep, feeling depression is at your door is not what life should be.

I let you in on a secret: listen well “No one will come with a magic wand to get you out of the mess you are in.”

Yes. I know I thought so too. But only you can do that. You and only you can get yourself from where you are. But the best part of the secret is that it is an empowering and rewarding journey.

Book a clarity call with me. I would love to be in your team. I know that if this message tugs at your heart I can help you. I guide you. I am or your savior. You are. I am your coach, coaching you to get the best out of you taking you to levels you didn’t even know you had within you.

Book a complimentary call with me now.

Love and light.

Shine bright!

Valerie Bottazzi

Life & Success Coach

“The soul always knows what it has to do to heal itself. The challenge is silencing the mind” [Caroline Myss]