What is a soulmate?

What is a soulmate?
 
I am sure you’ve heard many say they’d like to find their soulmate, but do we know what a soulmate really is? And how does it differ from our twin flame?
 
A soul mate is a person for which your soul is attracted to their spiritual essence, we could say they are our perfect match. Contrary to common belief, soulmate relationships, are not necessarily harmonious. However, if you embrace love and the challenge a soulmate brings on, you will both live the experience of a deeply nourishing relationship. 
 
The purpose of a soulful relationship is to ensure your partner expands and lives life in the best version of them. As a soulmate, your mission is to nudge your partner to extend beyond their comfort zones and your mission is to hold the vision for your lives as a couple lived at the highest level.
 
Soulmates are attracted by our radiant essence and passionate commitment to our soulful purpose. Living our lives in a soulful relationship means that we will be cheered along as we stretch and leap beyond our upper limits. A soulful relationship is one where the attraction is at the level of the soul, the mind and the body, this type of relationship can be challenging at times but always rewarding and fulfilling. 
 
There tends to be a lot of confusion about what a “twin flame” relationship really is. Unlike soulmates which are part of our spiritual family (as I mentioned above, our perfect match), twin flames are our perfect mirrors. 
 
Relationships with twin flames tend to be on-again-off-again, intensely passionate, and sometimes intensely painful. While relationships with our soulmates tend to be in service to a higher spiritual intention and if both souls “remember” the agreement they did before their incarnation, the relationship may be joyful and fulfilling.
 
It is common to get a tingling feeling or a sensation of déjà vu when we meet our soulmate and our twin-flame for the first time, so make sure you keep your antennas up and your awareness on…. And don’t worry about missing out as we make more than one agreement to ensure we live up to our soulful purpose.
 
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Love and light!

Shine bright!

Valerie Bottazzi
Love & Success Coach

PS: I invite you to book a “Breakthrough to Love” call with me. During our “Breakthrough to Love” session, together we will explore what is keeping you from attracting your desired love;  you will come away knowing the #1 thing you can do to start attracting your soul mate today! BOOK YOUR CALL NOW

“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise.” [Richard Bach]

5 Steps to Fire Up your relationship

 

I hear many of my clients share with me their deep suffering because they love a partner so completely that they give and have given them their all…without getting what they need and desire in return.

Yes, they suffer because their partner doesn’t reciprocate; on the contrary, they keep taking, and asking for more and taking more, leaving them depleted, hurt and addicted to hope.

Let’s look at this situation from a new perspective and give you some empowering tools to dive deep into this pain and turn it around. I invite you to journal and dialogue with your partner following these 5 steps.

STEP 1: Ask yourself the following questions

·     Am I standing in my Queenly power, fully and completely?
·     Am I in love with MYSELF fully and completely?
·     Do I accept and love myself first and foremost?

Once you know the answer to these questions do your inner work to make sure the answers are YES for every single one. Journal, write your own mantras, do the work!

STEP 2: Clarity (Clarity is always in there somehow isn’t it?)

Ask yourself what do you want from your partner?

·     Physical presence
·     Love
·     Seeing you
·     Being in his/her power
·     Supporting you in your power
·     ……..   complete your own list here

STEP 3: Love your partner enough to guide them into their inner inquiry

·     Does your partner have a sense of self?
·     Does he/she knows what they want from their life?

As a Queen, it is your task to guide your partner into self-inquiry with direct, clear and open communication

STEP 4: Acceptance and understanding

Acknowledge the dynamic that is going on here and practice presence.
Take action based on what new information comes up.

* Does the relationship need nurturing?
* Do you need to ask for what you want in a clear way?
* Do you need to stand in your power?
* What is needed to bring on joyful communication and light up the fire of love?

STEP 5: Closing empowering question

If you realize that your partner does not want, or is not ready to change his or her ways, you must ask yourself a courageous question:

What are you doing with a man or woman that is not fully available for you?

I am aware that following these 5 steps is not necessarily easy. It is my task to guide you on an inner journey of self-discovery to live the best version of your life. This is why if this message resonates with you, I invite you to book a free “Breakthrough to Love” call with me. Together we will explore what is keeping you from expressing your inner feminine essence so you can come away knowing the #1 thing you can do to start transforming your love life today.

BOOK YOUR CALL NOW

Love and light.

Shine bright!

Valerie Bottazzi
Love & Success Coach
 

“Love loves to love love.” 

Mind over Matter

 

How many times do you catch your mind self-talk being very mean to you?

Carl Jung said that “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate”.

I find this concept extremely powerful because it has been one of the latest things I finally managed to transform…. well let’s be honest, I am still working at it, and the journey never ends! 

I have been aware for YEARS about how mean our ego can be talking back to us, mine certainly was. I used to listen to my mind talk to me like I would never dare speak to anyone else: mean as it can be. 

Catching our mental dialogue and recognizing it for what it is, a self-inflicted painful judgment is the first step into being able to make a shift for the better.

Those things our mind talk to us about are always our biggest pain points. 

For example:

* You are worthless
* You will never amount to anything
* You are fat
* You are ugly
* Look at your body, those flabby legs, that tummy, etc
* Why would he ever love me
* I will never be able to come out of this situation 
…..
Complete with the above list with the many that are going around!  

The steps you may take to transform this vicious circle are:

#1 Becoming aware that it happens
#2 Catch yourself when it starts 
#3 Making the conscious decision of making the shift
#4 Switch the mental statement into a positive mantra

Here are some examples:   

Instead of “you will never amount to anything” right there and then say “I am worthy beyond description”

Instead of “why would he ever love me” replace it in the moment with “I am lovable” and/or “I am worthy of love”

Instead of “I will never be able to come out of this situation” say to yourself “Wellbeing is always coming to me” or relating to finances you may say “Abundance is outrageous and pervasive and flowing to me now”.

 

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You get the point. Now make a conscious effort to transform those things that make you suffer. Raise your vibration daily and start sending great energy to the Universe which I can guarantee you, will mirror back to you as you build enough momentum. 

Enjoy your weekend! 
Love and light. 
Shine bright!


Valerie Bottazzi
Love & Success Coach


“Who looks outside dreams. Who looks inside awakes.” [Carl Jung]