5 Steps to Fire Up your relationship

 

I hear many of my clients share with me their deep suffering because they love a partner so completely that they give and have given them their all…without getting what they need and desire in return.

Yes, they suffer because their partner doesn’t reciprocate; on the contrary, they keep taking, and asking for more and taking more, leaving them depleted, hurt and addicted to hope.

Let’s look at this situation from a new perspective and give you some empowering tools to dive deep into this pain and turn it aroundI invite you to journal and dialogue with your partner following these 5 steps.

STEP 1: Ask yourself the following questions

·     Am I standing in my Queenly power, fully and completely?
·     Am I in love with MYSELF fully and completely?
·     Do I accept and love myself first and foremost?

Once you know the answer to these questions do your inner work to make sure the answers are YES for every single one. Journal, write your own mantras, do the work!

STEP 2: Clarity (Clarity is always in there somehow isn’t it?)

Ask yourself what do you want from your partner?

·     Physical presence
·     Love
·     Seeing you
·     Being in his/her power
·     Supporting you in your power
·     ……..   complete your own list here

STEP 3: Love your partner enough to guide them into their inner inquiry

·     Does your partner have a sense of self?
·     Does he/she knows what they want from their life?

As a Queen, it is your task to guide your partner into self-inquiry with direct, clear and open communication

STEP 4: Acceptance and understanding

Acknowledge the dynamic that is going on here and practice presence.
Take action based on what new information comes up.

* Does the relationship need nurturing?
* Do you need to ask for what you want in a clear way?
* Do you need to stand in your power?
* What is needed to bring on joyful communication and light up the fire of love?

STEP 5: Closing empowering question

If you realize that your partner does not want, or is not ready to change his or her ways, you must ask yourself a courageous question:

What are you doing with a man or woman that is not fully available for you?

I am aware that following these 5 steps is not necessarily easy. It is my task to guide you on an inner journey of self-discovery to live the best version of your life. This is why if this message resonates with you, I invite you to book a free “Breakthrough to Love” call with me. Together we will explore what is keeping you from expressing your inner feminine essence so you can come away knowing the #1 thing you can do to start transforming your love life today.

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Love and light.

Shine bright!

Valerie Bottazzi
Love & Success Coach
 

“Love loves to love love.” 

How I stumbled into success

 

There is a BETTER LIFE AVAILABLE for ALL OF YOU!!!

Joy is our divine right. Western society has taught us for the most part, that we must suffer, that through suffering we will “purify” our souls.

The level of awareness on Earth at this time allows us to realize that suffering is not the way to purify our souls but rather to SUFFER. Simply stated.

The way to purify our souls is to align our life with our soulful purpose.

The way to purify our souls is to live our lives as a beacon for ourselves first and foremost and thus shining bright lighting the way for those coming behind us.

The way to purify our souls is by tapping into the best version of ourselves and committing with our loved ones, family, and friends, to be there for them judgment-free to support each other in our journeys to become our BEST VERSIONS.

Living life this way makes life an adventure that is fun and joyful as we discover new horizons. As we live our lives in integrity letting go of beliefs that keep us suffering and playing small, we become amazed at the magic that life has in store for us.

Life becomes a series of apparently synchronistic magical events that makes us flow into a life of ease softly and lovingly. It seems like a “children’s story” but it isn’t. It is a new level of consciousness and awareness and lifestyle available for each and every one of us, here, now, in today’s day and age.

When you cry yourself to sleep you are forgetting that there is a better life available for you.

When you live with dis-ease is because most likely your body is telling you in the best way it can, that there is something that is hurting your soul.

When you suffer through your loving relationships remember that what makes you suffer most likely is a mirror of your deep wounded feeling being spoken back to you.

But mostly REMEMBER and REACH OUT for the life of joy, health, wealth and abundance that is a decision away on the other side from fear.

Ready to have a call with me to get clear on how to tap into this wonderful “bestest of best” version of yourself and receive an Activation Prayer so your life can start becoming the life you dream of?

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Love and light.

Shine your light bright!

Valerie Bottazzi

Life Coach & Healer

“When what you value and dream about doesn’t match the life you are living, you have pain.” [Shannon L. Alder]

Commitment is a funny word

Commitment is the door to manifestation. Yes, you read correctly.

Commitment. Simple isn’t it? Yet, commitment requires quite a lot of us, not only commitment (LOL)! It requires clarity, passion, focus and unwavering faith!

In my life, I have discovered that commitment tends to be in symbiosis with passion. Passion simply leads you into committing into your passion, as redundant as it might seem, it is also crucial.

When we commit to our passion, to our goal, to our dream, every single event, every decision that calls for our attention, and every curveball that comes our way, gets easily aligned through the “filter” of commitment.

Commitment makes us show up, makes us make the right decision, and makes us take the right action.

Think about it.

Follow this simple exercise to find your commitment or to check into the one you have.

Sit in a comfortable position, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and relax. As you are in this relaxed state ask yourself three basic questions:

1) Who am I
2) What do I want
3) How can I best serve

This exercise will help you figure out where is it you are called into putting your commitment, which is your guiding passion, what action is the one that will bring you the fulfilling life that you truly desire.

Now, since you are reading my blog I want to give you the gift to access now deep help through my colors mini-course at half-price so  you can commit, heal and succeed using the knowledge of colors I share with you!

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“If I had six hours to chop down a tree, I would spend the first four hours sharpening the ax.”  [Abraham Lincoln]

You can buy now this mini-course for HALF PRICE.

Simply pair this new knowledge with hope, trust and powerful strategic actions backed by your intent and watch your life transform as you go for your dreams in a co-creative manner.

Shine YOUR Colors Bright!

Valerie Bottazzi

Soulful Business Coach

“If I had six hours to chop down a tree, I would spend the first four hours sharpening the ax.”  [Abraham Lincoln]

This is my story: honest and vulnerable money talk.

I hear so many times friends and clients as they share with me that they can’t seem to make more than “a given amount” of money per year, no matter what they do or how hard they work for it.

I can speak for myself when I say that I have learned both consciously and subconsciously limiting beliefs around money and power.

Have you ever heard any of these phrases below spoken by friends and family as you grew up?

  • He has a lot of money I wonder what he did to earn it
  • I don’t need money
  • Money doesn’t matter to me
  • A woman’s place is in the kitchen (LMAO exaggerating…to make the point)
  • Money is dirty
  • You have to work very hard to earn money
  • You cannot make money unless you work every single waking hour
  • Fear about running out of food
  • The “children in [any given poor country]” would be very happy to eat what you are leaving on your plate …

and many more versions of these concepts.

Glass ceilings, harassment, power, money.

They are all related and it reflects in our lives as an inability to be able to reach for more if we so desire. Our unconscious makes sure it “sabotages” us to keep us at the level it believes we should be (as small or as big as it believes it should be).

Clearly the same is true also for very wealthy people. For them it is a given that they should be wealthy, why not? Whatever beliefs they have it encompasses their ability to create and keep a wealthy lifestyle.

My limiting beliefs have all been embedded in the thread of my subconscious by my Italian parents who lived through World War II.

I grew up in a household where my mom would fill up the pantry until it was full to the gills…. what she experienced during the war when they run out of food when they were forced to leave their home and escape to the countryside, run many of her actions while I was a child.

For example in my house food portions were “rations” served at our table and we ate leftovers and the leftovers of the leftovers.

Nothing wrong with eating leftovers. I still re-vamp them today and I love them. I am talking about something deep here. Something that runs below the surface where our minds cannot reach or aren’t sometimes even aware of this.

FEAR.
NOT FEELING WORTHY.
NOT ALLOWING MYSELF TO BE POWERFUL.

Personally, I can say that I have lived through all of the above and then some.

I had to work at it.

Letting go of these beliefs wasn’t easy.

Consistent mindset work paired with journaling, with energy work, with deprogramming cellular memories, with regressions and more.

Each one of us has our own path. What I learned is that it doesn’t have to be “this hard” to let go. It boils down to “giving myself permission”. We can do all of the exercises we want but if we don’t give ourselves permission we cannot rewrite our truth.

I am writing this newsletter today to encourage yourself to give yourself permission. To do what it takes to re-write your story. It is up to you and only up to you. No one can grant you this permission.

Sure I can help you and other coaches can help you too. We can help you peel the onion, dig deep and let go, teach you techniques to change the energy and the beliefs but in the end, YOU MUST GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION AND YOU MUST REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE WORTHY no matter what and for no particular reason.

Got it?

YOU ARE WORTHY.

YOU ARE LOVED.

YOU CAN. YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU SET YOURSELF TO DO.

Love and light.
Shine bright!

Valerie Bottazzi
Life Coach & Healer

Prosperity is a way of living and thinking, and not just money or things. Poverty is a way of living and thinking, and not just a lack of money or things. [Eric Butterworth]

Ensure you meet your non-negotiable goals this year!

 

A small tiny course correct can help achieve your goals.

I hope you had a wonderful first week of the year, still with the “holiday season” feelings in your heart!

Now that we are already in WEEK 2 of the new year it is time to get serious!

At this time of the year, we are all about those fitness goals, weight loss goals, business goals, life goals, and more, that all of us normally put out there!

Can you see yourself full of glee and satisfaction awaiting the New Year for 2019?

Probably not huh?

While I love the drive that comes with a fresh start, a lot of what people promise to do in January ends up being unsustainable or becomes less appealing with time, and as the year goes by the good intentions get diluted and fall through into oblivion.

GET CRYSTAL CLEAR ON 3 NON-NEGOTIABLE GOALS

This is why today I want to invite you to get crystal clear on THREE NON-NEGOTIABLE goals for this new year. Make sure you sit down with your journal at hand, your heart connected to your roots and your soul and express clearly 3 things you absolutely MUST achieve this year.

In order to identify them, you can think in your mind “what will happen if I don’t achieve goal a/b/c”?

Connect with how would you FEEL when you achieve these goals. Let the “emotions” be your drive

Once you have got these three goals clearly stated write them down and place them where you can see them all the time around your house.

Have fun with this!!!

If it has to do with self-care or self-worth, how about post-it notes on your bathroom mirror!!!  This way you connect with your goal daily first thing in the morning.

What do you think of post-it notes on the door of the fridge so you can be reminded of them when you get your breakfast early in the day!

Wouldn’t you like to print them and place them in a frame on top of your coffee table in the living room or in your workspace on your desk! 🙂

In order to make sure you pursue them every month at the beginning of every month during 2018 ask yourself what FIVE things you MUST do/achieve in order to stay in line with these non-negotiable goals.

Ask yourself: “are things moving in the right direction? Are situations changing and shifting gradually in the right direction? Or not at all?

Am I making the decisions needed to veer the course in small degrees towards your goals and taking action to back my decisions?

Make sure you do this every single month and make sure you course correct. Remember, you can continuously check if you are on or off course and make small adjustments with your goals in mind.

Keep the intentions alive as time goes by. This is key to make you reach New Year’s Eve 2019 with a smile on your lips and a super fulfilled and joyful heart!

Make this year important and memorable for you.

It is within your power to make this one the best year of your life.

Start today.

With much love.

Shine bright!

Valerie Bottazzi
Soulful Business Coach

PS: Let us get on a call so I can help you get clarity! Clilck this link to book a time!  

Obstacles are what you see when you take your eye off the goal.  [Chris Burke]