Testimonial by D.P.

Valerie was and is a blessing in my life! She is an amazing medium, healer, coach and an incredible, compassionate non-judgmental person. She is REAL. She helped me heal many of my past issues in a short time. I know that the journey never ends but I definitely feel more powerful and blessed since we’ve worked together.

Especially powerful was the Shamanic Constellation session. She brought much information from my ancestors and my close family members and we cleared past pain originating with my ancestors. It was magical, so many souls came to speak with me through her, about current and past relationships. It was surreal. I felt so connected for days after the session and learned from some ancestors I hadn’t even met about their past and how they are linked through me. I was blessed by them and felt renewed and amazed to have been able to learn and listen to them. There were things Valerie transmitted that impressed me, since there was no way Valerie could have known those things had happened.

I feel grateful to have had this process as now I understand better where I come from and I feel clear and ready to start anew and to be guided by divine intervention.

I had never heard of this type of healing until she suggested it to me. I would definitely recommend it to anyone considering doing it. It’s a like a weight gets cleared out off your shoulders. I feel reborn and with a fresh new outlook of my past and my future.

We have worked via zoom and its incredible to know that energy flows and that you don’t need to be face to face to feel it in your soul and in your heart.

You do have to say YES and be open to hearing it all!

Thank you, Valerie, for being who you are, for your honesty, your love, your insight, your guidance, for being there for me and for the amazing coaching, tools, and healing you’ve given me in such a short time. I’ve been so blessed to have had the opportunity of working with you and that our paths crossed at the perfect time … Shine Bright!

D. P.

Missouri, USA, Mother and IT professional

Unplug From Suffering

SufferING is an active choice.
We don’t say painING but we say sufferING.

Pain is the physical sensations that tells you something is happening within your body in relation to an event or situation.

Suffering is the interpretation or story that you tell yourself about the pain.

Suffering is a vibrational spectrum. You’ve got the choice to stop from suffering, you can unplug from that vibrational frequency. We cannot eliminate pain in the same way, because pain is inevitable while suffering is optional.

I am all for honoring the pain, for listening to it. Pain always brings powerful information, pain teaches us. When we resist the pain it becomes stronger. But here is the key thing to understand: listening to the pain does not necessarily imply that you have to suffer. The reason why many times we resist the pain is that we confuse pain with suffering.

We can be aware of our pain, and we can choose to release ourselves from suffering. By embracing the pain and listening to why it is here and what it is hear to teach us we can gracefully heal the pain without suffering. Actually, we can even rejoice that the pain is here to set us free.

On the other side of resistance are flow, ease, and grace.

If pain is knocking at your door welcome it in, ask it “what are you here to show me”? Keep asking, keep listening and keep choosing.

Important distinction: when we suffer from chronic pain means that we associate a traumatic experience with the physical pain, that then creates an inner dialogue with a vicious that translates to feelings that coincide with suffering, and increases muscle tension and stress, making it stay chronic. In this case you may need help to clear the trauma, heal what was the foundational experience that created the original pain.

I am here to support you as you live your transformational journey.

Loving light and healing intent,

 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Shamanic Coach & Healer

“Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it.” [J.K. Rowling in Harry Potter, The Goblet of Fire]

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Nothing needs to happen

Are you confused and exhausted, one minute gnashing your teeth and then dancing a happy dance only to begin keening once again all based on the latest news. Don’t let the weight and density of the world squash your tender spirit, be reminded that it’s through the extreme pressure of life’s trials that diamonds are cultivated.

Last week I celebrated a young lady’s high school graduation ceremony. She and I share a mother-daughter relationship and I was very touched by it all, the graduating ceremony being a wonderful pivot doing everything on-line and in cars and yet fabulous and an event to remember. One of the speakers took us back memory lane during the last four years and we were all shocked by the number of events that have happened during this timeline. 

A traditional Zen Buddhist fable tells of a farmer to whom all kinds of events happened and his reaction when people would enter the drama of saying how wonderful or how terrible that “thing” was, he would answer “this could be good or this could be bad, who could say, we shall see”.  [Read Zen Buddhist full story!]

In these tumultuous times, this philosophy could serve as well. When I can find a moment to center myself, to be silent, to pray, to meditate, to contemplate, I am able to access the energy of equanimity of this Zen farmer. Equanimity and curiosity, are two words that came to me yesterday morning after my meditation, the definition of equanimity is “mental calmness, composure, and evenness of temper, especially in a difficult situation.” Just like the Zen farmer, we have the capacity to be composed regardless of what is happening around and to be curiously asking ourselves what good can come out of this?, what can I do to make things better?, and how can I learn and become a better person?.

When I live life remembering that life happens FOR me and not TO me my perspective changes. Everything is exactly as it should be. Nothing needs to happen differently.

I invite you to go within every single day. If you are already doing it, how about doing it for a little bit longer? I know that when I take time to connect with my highest self it becomes easier for me to understand that events are happening in Divine timing. I reconnect with hope an possibility.  I understand that what can be perceived as chaos, death, or delay is actually a transformation that has in it a tendril of new life that only needs our trust and our faith to eventually take form.

So what do you say? Shall we go back to the wisdom of our spiritual masters and stand in the truth that nothing needs to happen?.
I know that my biggest tool now is to sit in quiet Zen meditation focusing on my breathing and making room for the expansion inevitably happens inside of me. As I make room for the Divine to flow through me I know that what seems bad may actually be a blessing. Making room to sit in a meditative space opens our eyes (all three of them!) to appreciate our blessings and to be curious and patient having poise and composure asking and see what comes next. Who could say? We shall see.
Are you with me?
Love and light

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi
Shamanic Coach & Healer
BUDDHIST ZEN FARMER FABLE

 

(Known in different sources as a Chinese Taoist tale)

 

A farmer who had worked his crops for many years was working in his field one late summer afternoon with his old sick horse. The compassionate farmer decided to let the horse loose to live out the rest of its life free in the mountains. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. “Such bad luck your horse was so old”, they said sympathetically. The farmer replied: “Who could say? We shall see.”

Two days later the old horse came back with 3 other wild horses, which followed the old horse into the corral. “How wonderful,” the neighbors exclaimed. The farmer softly said, “Who could say? We shall see.”

The next morning the farmer’s only son tried to train the new wild horses and was thrown to the groundbreaking his leg. Once again the neighbors came to offer their sympathy for what they called his “misfortune, now you won’t have his help and you’ll have to do all the work yourself. “Maybe”, the farmer answered, “Who could say? We shall see.”

A few days later, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, he was deemed unfit for war and passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out. “You must be very happy” they said. “Who could say? We shall see” replied the farmer.

With time the son’s leg healed and was left with a slight limp. Again the neighbors came to pay their condolences and again the farmer replied “Who could say? We shall see.”

When war ended the villager found out that their sons had all died in the war. As it turned the farmer and his son were the only able bodied men capable of working the village lands. Since the farmer was who he was, as he became wealthy he was also very generous to the villagers. They said: “Oh how fortunate we are; you must be very happy” to which the farmer softly calmly said, “Who could say? We shall see.”

What small change?

 

Sometimes it seems like nothing works the way it should. If you’re a human, you have probably hit that point where work is no fun, relationship is a struggle and you don’t even feel comfortable in your body.

At times like these, changing your life can seem overwhelming. There’s so much to do…where do you even start?

It’s quite simple, really…just change ONE thing.

Read a magazine article you would never typically even consider. Try a new type of restaurant. Take a different route to work. Any simple change of scenery can shift your perspective, and has the potential to drastically transform your life.

It’s like a ship at sea…if it changes course even one degree, 100 miles later it’s in completely new waters.

Of course, the most profound shifts are the ones you make on the inside. Annoyance can easily be turned into fascination. Frustration can be flipped to become gratitude. Even anger can be transformed if you simply turn it into a song.

You don’t have to tackle the whole enchilada, just make one simple shift.

And the best part is…it’s all experimentation. If you don’t like your new perspective, you can always go back to your old one.

What “one-degree” shift can YOU make TODAY?

Love and light,

 

Valerie Shakti Bottazzi

Life Coach & Healer

“It’s only after you’ve stepped outside your comfort zone that you begin to change, grow, and transform.” [Roy T. Bennett]